The POTNAS kick off their 8th season finale welcoming back Taylor Townsend (3:28)! The boys get into an “Ice Breaker” discussion about the Houston and Dallas rivalry, followed by an introduction of their second guest, Cedrick Liles (5:21). In an extended edition of “News”, the guys continue the discussion from the previous episode about the alarming rise of celebrity divorces and separations and compare them with their personal experiences in marriage (14:34). In the “Highlight Topic”, Taylor and his wife, Kyuana, walk everyone through their emotional, yet testimonial journey of Taylor’s open heart surgery procedure caused by a bacterial infection, followed by his road to full rehabilitation (50:12). You don’t want to miss a second of this inspirational, jaw-dropping season conclusion of your favorite podcast!
The POTNAS kick off their 8th season finale welcoming back Taylor Townsend (3:28)! The boys get into an “Ice Breaker” discussion about the Houston and Dallas rivalry, followed by an introduction of their second guest, Cedrick Liles (5:21). In an extended edition of “News”, the guys continue the discussion from the previous episode about the alarming rise of celebrity divorces and separations and compare them with their personal experiences in marriage (14:34). In the “Highlight Topic”, Taylor and his wife, Kyuana, walk everyone through their emotional, yet testimonial journey of Taylor’s open heart surgery procedure caused by a bacterial infection, followed by his road to full rehabilitation (50:12). You don’t want to miss a second of this inspirational, jaw-dropping season conclusion of your favorite podcast!
You're now tuning into the sounds of the podcast podcast. Oh yeah, baby, it feels so good to be back. Good morning, good evening, good afternoon, deep in an old world you're at on the globe. Ladies and gentlemen, you are now listening to the sounds of the PODNESS podcast. Baby, and we back here. God damn it. What the fuck? We about to close season eight with a fucking bang. God damn it. Thank y'all listening to us for sticking with us for eight episodes for the eighth season of the. Podness podcast.
Speaker 5:We have a very special episode for y'all today.
Speaker 1:but before we get into the meat and potatoes of the sandwich, let's go ahead and pass it off to the what.
Speaker 5:I've never had potatoes on a sandwich.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, that's too much carbs.
Speaker 6:Meat and potatoes on a sandwich.
Speaker 5:Maybe like potato chips on the side.
Speaker 6:What I mean maybe like in a double or something, but like no, that's not a normal thing.
Speaker 5:He hasn't either. Potatoes sandwich Boy, if you don't get.
Speaker 1:Alright, ladies and gentlemen, once you get a, well, god damn it. I don't always forget this what PODNESS podcast, baby P-O-T-N-A-S. That is perspective on topics, news and shit.
Speaker 3:What the fuck.
Speaker 1:Alright, let's get into an introduction of the first PODNESS, starting with the right end of the panel. Give it up for Dino, aka the Dixie Neri. Welcome home, baby. Oh yeah, hey, but you over here looking like a little pelican duck, no duck, Whoop-a-Kick whoop-a-coast prime man, oh wait.
Speaker 6:Oregon has Oregon. Yeah, the hurricane in Miami.
Speaker 1:The you right.
Speaker 6:Are they any good? Right now? They are, yeah, you just shout at them.
Speaker 1:Alright. And then I am the other half, the left wing, the left field partner, alright. And I am a father, so you can call me Papa, tizzle baby Papa.
Speaker 6:Tizzle baby. I'm prepared to string to my verdict. I feel about this.
Speaker 1:What the fuck? Yeah, yeah, shoot him up again, baby, I'm prepared.
Speaker 6:So I don't want the world to know, magical, how I feel, the sensational, the exceptional Young Tizzle the life-thrizzle, baby Papa Tizzle.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all the ladies love me. All the ladies love me. Oh, all the kiddos love me.
Speaker 5:Hey, I'm the nigga. That's your Tennessee team name too. Papa, Tizzle you really like that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you really do.
Speaker 6:I don't fucking know, baby. I regret to say I don't know if I could let the people speak.
Speaker 4:I know.
Speaker 6:It's not really doing it right. It almost undermines the level of cool that you do have as a black dad. What are you talking about, Papa Tizzle? I think it's a better way to get to the fact that you're a dad. You better watch yourself, Yo. What's up now, partner? I don't know. Funky dog hit bitch.
Speaker 1:All right, I'm clearly having fun with the buttons, but there is one button that we're getting pressed right now because we got to give it up for this young brother. Hey, ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to introduce you to your a civil engineer and professional. He will build a house for you, motherfuckers.
Speaker 6:What else?
Speaker 1:He is a member of Kappa, alpha, alpha, alpha Side fraternity, incorporated from the University of Texas, yeah baby, we're chapter. The Iro Delta ID. It's the dead. How to God damn it. And he is a Dallas native. Hey, shout out to Oakleaf, we still love you. Ladies and gentlemen, give it up for the sensational, the remarkable, the outstanding Taylor Townsend.
Speaker 6:How you feel about that.
Speaker 5:Like a lot of great intro. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you like that shit.
Speaker 5:Glad to be here with you.
Speaker 1:I feel like he coming out the tunnel, whatever.
Speaker 4:WWE event.
Speaker 1:Look, I was about to say an NFL event.
Speaker 6:But yeah, we can take it there too. Man, that ain't entertainment like it was. It's all scripted.
Speaker 1:How you feeling, brother, welcome back. We've had you on the show before. Yeah, second time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Two seasons in a row, man, can we get a three P?
Speaker 5:The first time I was just a civil engineer and now I'm a civil engineer and real estate developers.
Speaker 6:Hey, talk to him. We're doing both now man.
Speaker 1:So yeah, you're the house, oh you bitch. Yeah, niggas man, what the?
Speaker 6:fuck what the hey? Why you? Call him all that Sorry.
Speaker 1:You cool cats and kittens. Yeah, that's what's up, OK, All right. Well, I would normally give a proper introduction of where you're from, where you're at occupation, all that shit, whatever.
Speaker 1:But I just already said all that so how about we get into a good old icebreaker? What is so special about Dallas? Why is this rivalry between Houston and Dallas a thing? Can we just put that to bed? I mean, like, why do you feel like that? The triple D? What is first off for our listeners who have no idea what the big deal about Dallas is? What does triple D stand for? Dirty, dirty Dallas. No, that's correct. Hell god, oh really.
Speaker 3:It's dirty dirty D Dirty dirty.
Speaker 1:Dirty, dirty D Dirty, dan, all right. And then, and I got that right, right, you're from Oakleaf, from Oakleaf. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5:Everybody, I guess in the everybody from Dallas, don't say triple D. That's really like a kind of like an Oakleaf.
Speaker 1:OK, like maybe.
Speaker 5:Pleasant Grove type of thing, like pretty much everybody's South, like Black people, nobody else to say triple D like that. Oh yeah, oh really.
Speaker 1:OK, I think.
Speaker 2:I've heard a couple of white people say that.
Speaker 1:Really From.
Speaker 4:Dallas yeah.
Speaker 6:I've heard them say like DF Dubb, dallas-fort Worth area not triple D, Triple D is that's yeah, it's really a niggas you to be,
Speaker 5:honest with you. Yo, you a niggas, you a niggas. Triple D, triple D, and I don't even like.
Speaker 3:I don't see it, it's triple H. You, the hoke nigga bitch. Yeah, it's different, it's just like.
Speaker 5:Oakleaf you just say the Oak, you don't say that yeah, yeah, for sure you don't say the AK.
Speaker 1:Oakleaf.
Speaker 6:Oakleaf yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, dick, all right. Well, I mean, y'all have a lot of good things coming to the city of Dallas, y'all got.
Speaker 5:Adreas, you know, so set us to that. Dreyas, dreyas, dreyas. I wish we had Adreas.
Speaker 1:Yeah, come on man, oh my gosh.
Speaker 6:Honestly.
Speaker 1:She is a beautiful woman.
Speaker 6:I think she is. Well, let me help you pivot. I think real cool, what the? I do think that because I've been there a few times and I think one thing they are getting a Universal Studios.
Speaker 1:I didn't know that. Yeah, bro.
Speaker 6:Well, I think OK, so that gets right to what I was going to say. Dallas and Houston, there's. First of all, it's not really like no beef for real, like. I don't even know I got until I got to UT. I was like then it was like a beef Coming up in Houston. It was always like this north, south, south, south beef, it wouldn't even y'all ain't done doing shit, dallas, what so? Like I went to UT and it became a thing, you from Houston, dallas, it was like a thing, exactly.
Speaker 6:But, really, having been there a million times, I think it's really really similar in some ways.
Speaker 4:I think there's a lot of parity. It's a lot of parity.
Speaker 6:So boom, that's the thing. Competition automatically breeds I'm sorry comparison automatically breeds competition, right, but don't forget where you at nigga. But no, I will say at the same time hey, god damn it.
Speaker 1:All right, all right, all right. I'm sorry for that, but just have to you know let people know no, yeah, for sure. We really do run this motherfucker Well respectfully, but we're glad to have you here, brother.
Speaker 6:Yeah, I think it's my time, All right so anything else?
Speaker 1:What else do you have to come into the great city? I mean, that shit is always under construction.
Speaker 5:Like it is so hard to navigate through the city most of the part. A lot of like great restaurants, like I can't remember the name of it, but there's a like a popular restaurant in Dubai. We're building one. We got a catch coming, catch is coming. It's like crazy.
Speaker 4:It's like you know, super big catch. Yeah, super big catch. Yeah that's coming to Dallas. Draze is coming, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5:Universal Studios. There's more, but I can't. I just can't think of it. Yeah, but yeah, Dallas is booming bro.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I had to give a shout out to to another partner that's also here with us, but not necessarily on camera. But you know, shout out to the one, the only. He goes by Mr Marrake. He goes also by Mr Royal teammate, give it up for the sensational Cedric Lyon.
Speaker 3:Say what's up.
Speaker 1:Hey right out of. H town. All right, and I'm about to loot your mic right now. I'm sorry, but but you know, I just have to give you a shout out, brother, and then we y'all can catch Cedric on the next season of the partners podcast. We'll be back in 2024. And we might drop some specials show episodes along the way as well, before we get there. But and then, Halloween, Taylor, oh, maybe. Oh, Halloween special. Oh, we're going to report live from from from the Dino dynasty.
Speaker 4:We have to do something.
Speaker 6:Yeah, the Dino's, then They'll be there. The black room, the black room.
Speaker 5:Oh God damn, all right, what you going to be following Spiderman, do you know? Do you know yet? He don't know yet. Nigga look.
Speaker 1:I have yet to be Spiderman. Huh, really, yeah, all right, yo, I have not. I've been everybody but Spiderman, because I've been waiting for the perfect time.
Speaker 5:It's the perfect time you think so, Spiderman bro.
Speaker 6:I should. But if you do, you got to do it right, god damn it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, how I was right, you know.
Speaker 6:I don't know, I'm just saying why do?
Speaker 1:my voice get seductive when I said that. I don't know I may be inquired right now. All right, but I know I'm just kidding, I'm going to rock, shut up, all right.
Speaker 6:So Sexy voice no.
Speaker 1:Hey baby. I just want to let you know that was so funny when we did that a couple of seasons ago or last season. The last season yeah, it's a Bradley out in the LA doing it when it's fucking thing.
Speaker 6:Yeah, yeah, he looked like LA to me. When I see him last time I was like bro, you look like LA Taylor, are you?
Speaker 1:working on any projects in the civil engineering field or the state. Yes, yeah, I actually got a project in Houston right now.
Speaker 5:Oh shit, whoa whoa whoa, Really Fort Bend County, but I mean that's the area.
Speaker 1:You got a investment property, or what?
Speaker 5:No, that's work like civil engineering. Oh OK, oh. Ok, it's like a hundred and twenty acre track. I'm starting on your asses, man. I'm not I, because it ain't. I'm not making the money they're going to make? Yeah.
Speaker 4:Selling it, making that, but yeah but.
Speaker 5:I'm just designing this shit, but yeah, it's probably like 300 lots.
Speaker 4:Oh, 300 homes is going to be built on this property.
Speaker 5:That's what's on, but yeah that's on Mustang by use, if anyone knows what that is.
Speaker 6:But so I take it, at least from what it sounds, like you you have a certain level of proficiency at what you do. Yeah, level of acuity, you're pretty good at what you do. It sounds like you must enjoy at a certain level as well.
Speaker 5:I enjoy it?
Speaker 1:Yes, but it's their ebbs and flows about it.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I feel like the only ebbs and flows is just the time.
Speaker 1:Is it real time? Yeah, I would like that time back.
Speaker 5:as far as that's what I'm trying to Build my own business to where?
Speaker 4:I don't have to. Passive yeah, pass me.
Speaker 6:I don't have to really like clock in to work.
Speaker 4:Oh, to make that money, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I want to.
Speaker 5:I want to spend more time with my family.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I did that.
Speaker 5:And it takes away from from that.
Speaker 1:So how many hours do you work on a weekly basis? Average, I'd say Forty five, forty five days, they ain't too bad, that's about how much I work.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it's not too bad.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I mean it varies like week over week depending on the time of the year and the projects and shit and go.
Speaker 5:I feel like when you packed up in with your project does it?
Speaker 3:Do you Just duplicate? Because we're building 300 homes? I'm pretty sure that these homes are literally the 300 of the same houses, except maybe they have different elevations or maybe we're putting it during the left side or the right side. How does that go so really?
Speaker 5:The home portion of it, like that's where I don't do anything like the space. It's like a space I feel like, for instance, this subdivision, I would have designed the roads.
Speaker 6:The infrastructure infrastructure.
Speaker 3:Everything underground like the storm sewer the sanitary sewer the water to get to the things that we do not see. If you go to speak, you know if you don't speak, speak to the microphone Said.
Speaker 4:Oh.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 5:But everything you don't see. It's pretty much what I do, but the house is like we elevate the ground, you know, make sure everything is smooth for you to build a house on it, but once it's time to build the homes, that's where the developers come in. Exactly, yeah, because I'm. We're designing it for the developers, gotcha.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's kind of how it was when we were in the Air Force. The CE crew will come and build the foundation of stuff and then everybody else will come in. The contingency response group or team would come in and then build the rest of the station whenever we were in deployed locations and whatnot. So, it was very, some, very impressive stuff. But yeah, shout out to you, young brother man, tell the gang.
Speaker 6:Oh, the fucking everything I feel you Like kind of getting your own so you can win yourself from their dollar. Exactly, yeah, I feel you. That's one thing.
Speaker 3:So what business are you interested in doing yourself?
Speaker 6:Real estate.
Speaker 3:I build, I build homes. Ok, so the actual home builder, yeah.
Speaker 5:So on the other side, yeah, I like. I build homes like my company, but like, say, somebody had a lot and they were interested in building a house on it. We get designed, we work with architects to get a design for that like a property and I will build it.
Speaker 6:Was that OK?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think All right. So I wanted to take this time to do a little quick news segment because something tied in from last week that I wanted to kind of get your opinion on to the game, you being a married man.
Speaker 6:So without further ado, let's get straight into this.
Speaker 5:Don't give me a trouble, bro, I'm not, we're a wife kind of crazy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're a corporate responsible entity here at the Pond's podcast, all right. So per last week's episode I had asked the question is marriage overrated or is it the people?
Speaker 6:doing marriage.
Speaker 1:That's crazy what you phrase that Because what and the reason why I'm saying like what I mean in terms of like the people doing it. I'm not talking about the people that are actively married. I'm talking about the people that try it for a few years and then they get straight into, move straight into divorce, and then some couple of notable examples.
Speaker 5:Celebrity wives. I don't like a lot of people do that on impulse, though I don't think marriage is overrated. No, I don't think marriage is overrated. No, I think it's overrated. None of us can say, yes, I'm not talking about marriage. No, listen.
Speaker 4:I don't agree with that. Well, listen to the question again, sorry.
Speaker 1:Look at it from this standpoint Is marriage overrated for the people that are that partaking it, but then literally months or a few years later, they get straight into divorce.
Speaker 5:Nah, I still don't think it's overrated, I think overrated is a word, I think. I think they're just like doing it on impulse for like, like I don't know, reach a leverage when you say impulse do you mean they did it on impulse, as in?
Speaker 3:I met you, I liked you, we had sex, it was great.
Speaker 5:This feeling. They like this feeling. Yeah, yeah, Like I'm in infatuation.
Speaker 6:So when?
Speaker 5:honeymoon phase.
Speaker 1:But what's that?
Speaker 5:honeymoon phase, that's when everything goes down for them, type of thing.
Speaker 1:So, but they're not taking it seriously, and that's what I mean by it being overrated to them, because I'm not talking about us right here. You see what I'm saying, like I'm talking about the, because it's two different classes of people that I'm practically trying to put a highlight spotlight on.
Speaker 6:You love a good binary?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean come on, I don't know. I don't know if I would call it overrated for them it's called entertainment and content too.
Speaker 6:I don't know if I would call it overrated for them, I think why?
Speaker 1:Why not? Well, here's the thing they're making light of the concept of marriage. When we get into this bond with an individual, with our partner, this is supposed to be our life partner. Like through thick and thin, through like the the vows, and yes, you can create your own vows, but most of the people that we're talking about. Like Tiyana, Taylor and Amon Shrumper, and then Ariana Grande and that dude, dalton Gomez we're the fuck that is. And then GZ and Gina Ma We've seen all they fucking weddings.
Speaker 5:I also feel like one of the vows you know you get to that status You're making so much of being publicized. The status of being publicized. Yeah, there's a whole lot of things you're worried about and you're not putting that energy into your marriage.
Speaker 4:Yeah, hold on.
Speaker 5:So you don't have. You know, your priorities are different. I'm worried about this business. I'm worried about you know, making money here I got to do an appearance here.
Speaker 6:You're not putting that same energy into your marriage, because the thing about it we talked about this last time marriage takes work. It does. It is a constant. There is no. Now you're good, like you will. You'll be married 10, 20, 30, 40 years, and every year you're working on that. But because it changes, it evolves right, cause we change we change Exactly. You gotta learn to deal with this person, this person.
Speaker 1:So yeah, so then, you would agree then to my latter statement about them, not necessarily taking it as seriously or taking it for granted, I think, I think, yeah, people don't. Okay.
Speaker 6:Don't maybe realize the work that's involved and when they encounter this work. But it is a job.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 6:And you got to really want this, really bad, to put this level of commitment and work into this, because it don't always feel good, could you both?
Speaker 1:give prominent examples that you have or personal experiences of what work is to you to when it comes to marriage, Like what, what, what do you? What do you constitute as?
Speaker 6:work Okay.
Speaker 1:Um, from a personal perspective, like it's far Okay. So I'll give, I'll throw some examples out just to kind of help you all on pivot right Is, uh, the the concept of time, given up your time, like after work you want to kind of unwind and come and decompress, but then, when your wife and kids come home, you got to exert that energy that you wanted to give to yourself to now to them. That's theirs.
Speaker 6:Right. Regardless of that, that's that's they own that.
Speaker 1:They are unforgiving with it too, when I get off?
Speaker 5:luckily I have. Well, I work three days in office, I work two days at home, but those days yeah, so those days I have to go into office, my drive back, because of traffic, is probably like 50 minutes to an hour. Okay, so that's my decompressed time. I listen to a podcast or something.
Speaker 1:Okay, um, and I'm just waiting. I listen to a podcast. Back home is 50 to 50 minutes to an hour.
Speaker 6:Yeah, that's what he said, yeah.
Speaker 5:That's why I can, that's why I'm hybrid I go 90 days a week.
Speaker 6:Mine is the same thing.
Speaker 1:I used to work up, you remember.
Speaker 6:NRG. I used to.
Speaker 1:You know, I can't even front because when I was doing so, when I had separated from the military, I went into the transition program and then, got into uh, yeah, I know, um, we'll talk about that another time but uh, I did a transition program and then uh accepted an offer from Wayfair to do a corporate fellowship, uh, through the managerial program, and that was three months and that warehouse is on the other side of Houston and that was like a 45 minute drive and then with traffic if I left because I had to be there like by five AM.
Speaker 4:So I had to wake up at like three 30. There was no traffic. Yeah, no traffic, yeah.
Speaker 1:That was good. Yeah, no, no traffic, but then, like I, would normally get off around two or three, but then there'll be times where we had to work a little late. Yeah, it's you and the truck driver Cause it's warehousing right and then um and get off like about four or five those days Used to suck but be therapeutic at the same time because this is part, or just decompress it.
Speaker 5:It's peace Cause as soon as I get home.
Speaker 1:I gotta go daddy mode. My son is happy to see me yeah.
Speaker 5:Give me a hug. I gotta be a husband.
Speaker 6:Tell me about how that feels, though, too, like to come home, cause this is, it's a double layer sword, like, of course you come home like you tire, you want to give you some time back, but when you come home to a little man, like that man that, that, that that energizes yeah, I mean, it's nothing like that. It's hard to describe.
Speaker 1:I don't want to get too deep into this, but I do. We're just going to do it a quick, like little. Sub tangent is I have a daughter, taylor has a son and then Dino has both.
Speaker 3:And the son, so you can speak from both perspectives.
Speaker 6:Yeah, yeah your son being the youngest, and then your, your daughter being the oldest, the boys, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1:Um, I had this question that I had wanted to pose at the beginning of the season as the is there a true difference between having a daughter and having a son? Cause I felt like that. I had so much pressure uh on me before when we were at the gender reveal, leading up to the gender reveal, like pleat, like I was expecting to have a son, but then when that smoke turned purple, which was our, indication for the for us having a daughter, Um, when that's what I'm purple, I mean you did you know, but she was wearing red though.
Speaker 6:I mean cause I was trying to get it. Yeah, you were sporting it. I was trying to get some more protein.
Speaker 4:I need, I need, I need. So everyone has girls.
Speaker 6:So I was trying to, I was trying to get some fun, yeah, and I was completely relieved.
Speaker 1:I was like because I feel more pressure raising a boy than I do raising a girl, and I liked the fact that having a girl, I was excited for the challenge, like raising a son, I just it was a lot of space for to be a disappointment Damn and to also um yeah.
Speaker 3:yeah, I mean to be a disappointment but to also like what causes this space to be.
Speaker 1:Well, it was just because it's so many expectations on men, right, and then you kind of have to uphold that. But with a woman with a daughter, with a baby girl, your dad, you're right, you get to tap into that intimate like softer, sensitive, uh, central side why?
Speaker 6:can't you maybe not central, but not central. Sorry, yeah, but why can't you be soft and emotional with baby boy? Yeah, uh, because the answer is you can, but how? You can and it's not it's not inherent, like it's not traditional, but I would do the same thing.
Speaker 1:I don't know if to do it. Yeah, be deliberate about it. I'm telling you, as a son.
Speaker 6:So what's crazy is? Oh, not what's crazy. Did we say that Black people, why on the wild we do that. We just man. It's crazy, bro, that's just like a default.
Speaker 4:What is a better word?
Speaker 6:to say is what's actually what helps? A lot is, and raising my son is that he's a lot like his moms, so my daughter is me with a vagina.
Speaker 4:She is a little girl Me.
Speaker 6:When I talk to her, when we, when we face difficult we don't have difficult conversations. I talked to her like I would talk to a six year old Me. Yeah, she understands and she responds and she has great questions. My son is my wife incarnate with a penis and this Negro is uh, I'm trying to understand him. We're learning each other because he, he will be with me for no reason and like my daughter is me.
Speaker 3:So like not very good.
Speaker 6:I'm trying to figure that right now. I'm trying to see what's going on.
Speaker 4:My point is what helps is that we're so different you?
Speaker 6:know I'm, we're highly extroverted. We like to talk to strangers, we like to. You know what I'm saying. Be in front of me. Dre is shy. He's more introverted, like Jen, probably like you, whereas he, you know, she's more like me.
Speaker 1:So it's dope to have that balance, though, because with chemical, with raising a son, contrast with all of that. Uh, the kind of the way gravity is the kind of the way, gravity that comes with it.
Speaker 3:Infrastructure of raising a man, it's you.
Speaker 6:What's that's in place? It doesn't matter what the man's like, because he's different than me, but it helps. I'll be honest, because if he was, a little me.
Speaker 2:that was a lot yeah.
Speaker 5:Maybe, it'd be hard, it'd be, it'd be a different job. Yeah, yeah, he looks like me, but he acts like my wife.
Speaker 6:Yeah, see, my son acts like it's my wife, and I see me coming through.
Speaker 1:Yo Tatum is a chocolate Taylor game Like it is crazy, dog. I'm thinking about what your son is probably speaking to the mic so your son is probably really turn the mic up and speak into the top of it, your son.
Speaker 3:Yeah, there you go. It is probably there you go, hype, and he gives a good time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh yeah, for sure. You, being a part of the community, do you expect to have or want children in the future? I do, yeah, okay.
Speaker 6:Sure, do you want girl boy? Do you ever, do you ever?
Speaker 1:I mean, of course, it's not.
Speaker 3:Whatever you have will be a blessing, but it's not a gender preference that I would want, it's whatever I'm blessed with Well, I want before I'm blessed with a child is the opportunity to spend time with another human being that wants to be in a relationship. Like you got to say about marriage, and it's not saying that. I'm just looking to just marry somebody, but I do want to take that time and put in that equity. Can I be honest?
Speaker 6:Isn't it just shooting his shot and putting it all out here?
Speaker 1:I'm single as fuck. Somebody come save me and be my husband. I didn't hear that.
Speaker 6:This is what I heard. History is everything is cyclical, bro Fashion. I used to be an Air Force One guy, but I had so many Air Force One's. I either gave them away or sold them, and now that's where everybody's rocking again.
Speaker 3:I'm so sour, You're going to get beat up Bro.
Speaker 6:I'm already.
Speaker 1:I'm back at it again. Just a little quick segue. I just wanted to take this brief time to throw a shameless fuck.
Speaker 4:Shout out to the Air.
Speaker 1:Force Air Max 97s, you know Go standards.
Speaker 5:I like that. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1:You should have been on this. Count on Nike, I do Okay, so yeah.
Speaker 4:I got to be on Nike. I'm just making sure you register.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah, yeah, you got to register online.
Speaker 6:I got to be on there. I went shoe shopping in Jersey you just send me.
Speaker 1:Let me know what you wanted and you send me your card information I make that part of the history, brother, it was temporary.
Speaker 5:How you think I knew about it, my dad is military what?
Speaker 6:they want. What branch? What do you need? Me N***a.
Speaker 5:I didn't, he didn't, he just they ain't carrying the syndrome, baby.
Speaker 6:Well, you're some.
Speaker 1:That's not no main character syndrome.
Speaker 4:You said why do you need me? No one said they needed you.
Speaker 1:I said what no?
Speaker 6:Huh, because he asked.
Speaker 1:That was an easy assumption and insubstantial. No, it was not, because he said you have.
Speaker 6:You made it seem like that you wanted. You needed me for the discount.
Speaker 5:I'm crazy. No, I just Y'all like to.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, no, I just.
Speaker 5:Hello, I'm trying to make sure you're saving this one, this one he actually said.
Speaker 6:He said do you You're saving that? I'm saving you, no.
Speaker 1:I'm saving you oh, oh, okay. I see what you're saying.
Speaker 6:Okay, my brother's keeper again.
Speaker 1:Damn. I was gonna be my brother's keeper if he wanted the.
Speaker 6:No, you didn't.
Speaker 1:But the discount you assumed he was asking you can holler at your nigga if you need furniture and fucking shoes or anything else, I ain't got a lot to Come. On, man, don't fucking play me, I might cut this out. This narcissistic asshole, left field, left wing nigga, always looking out for the best inches, all y'all motherfuckers, man God damn, You're not playing me.
Speaker 6:Okay, I was like who is he describing himself?
Speaker 1:He's yes, it's me baby, papa Tizzle young.
Speaker 6:Tizzle. That's good, of course I know you have, so you okay. That's good. It's good to be self-aware.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna fucking turn from zero to 100 real quick, didn't I Real?
Speaker 6:quick.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:All right.
Speaker 1:Are we done about that?
Speaker 3:I'm sorry that we ran into a couple of tangents, but You're not big with your shoes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah I just wanted to take that moment to let everybody know that I'm stepping my shoe game, my shoe collection up and I am thoroughly exciting and excited about it. I've been enjoying the journey. I got some more shoes on the way to the journey.
Speaker 3:So, yeah, I'm about to be.
Speaker 1:I love it I love it for him, I love it for him, you love it for me, right? Thank you, brother.
Speaker 6:It's like a whole I see you're in another place of life.
Speaker 1:Yeah baby.
Speaker 4:Something has been already like for a while.
Speaker 6:Yeah, but what we're?
Speaker 1:talking about Mr Sofisticated. That used to be his Instagram name, so am I saying that right?
Speaker 4:Sofisticated, sofisticated, sofisticated.
Speaker 3:Sofisticated.
Speaker 1:Sofisticated Okay.
Speaker 6:I can see what a tongue twister it will be. You know what? Honestly, bro, when it happens, just hit me up because I'm going to help you navigate that. When you're closet, which way? Because you're going to get robbed Probably. Maybe at some point you might get robbed. Oh, do you think so?
Speaker 1:Oh wait, wait, wait. You're talking about internally? No, I hope not. I hope that never happens.
Speaker 4:Wait, I was hoping.
Speaker 1:If you get robbed and they only take your shoes. I don't know who that could be, but oh my God, I don't know. I'm going to be sorry for the crowd.
Speaker 3:I don't know who you are, but you're lying down the phone with his dad.
Speaker 4:No, no, no no no.
Speaker 2:I don't.
Speaker 6:Never. But if it happens, just hit me. I'm going to help you solve the crime.
Speaker 3:He's going to be the one to take the shoes.
Speaker 1:I'm going to set it for you real quick. I know it was a mistake.
Speaker 6:I'm going to look at the size, but check it out and you know what I feel like Jonathan will win.
Speaker 3:Like you will try to steal the shoes and still, jonathan will win.
Speaker 6:Jonathan will win. He'll feed you. Yeah Well, he. No, he's not going to be me up because I'll be his dad. Why do y'all think that I cannot do? I am not equipped to handle myself in combat Say that, oh wait, so I dropped the conclusion.
Speaker 1:Yes, okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6:Why do?
Speaker 1:you keep doing this. The hip, the hip, the hip. I'm just a hoppin' ass ribbin' nigga. I'm sorry.
Speaker 6:So what did Tell me buddy two times baby.
Speaker 3:So Jonathan said he feels like Speaking to the mic, he wouldn't be able to handle himself in combat. That's what Jonathan said. That's projection Exactly. So, what did y'all hear?
Speaker 1:I heard him. I mean no, what did they say?
Speaker 6:What do we mean to say? Because that's what I heard he said he would.
Speaker 5:I heard combat yeah.
Speaker 1:And he was saying something else.
Speaker 5:No, he said he would be. He didn't say you couldn't handle yourself in combat. I'm sure you could Like if you fall somebody else.
Speaker 6:Listen, he's been with me in battle situations.
Speaker 1:I know you're probably good, I brought down a 6-4.
Speaker 6:No, but I'm going to lead the pack.
Speaker 3:I'm probably gonna be. You brought down a 6-4.
Speaker 1:A 6-4 large man, very large human being, no he was that Dino was threatening to Okay well Come on, tell us the story, I mean it's in the past and nobody can.
Speaker 3:First of all, Jonathan, give us your stats. So the nickel was 6-4 and large. What are your stats?
Speaker 6:I just Can I finish my point? I used my tactics to.
Speaker 5:He's like 5'9", 200 million.
Speaker 1:No, I'm 5'10" first off, and I'm a 185, which means that I have muscle on. I'm not no short, stubby fat nigga.
Speaker 3:And we will not take that away from you, or not.
Speaker 1:Come on, man, you're not a fucking old, I'm a fat nigga.
Speaker 6:All y'all can get the fucking business, but JT, you realize no one's saying these things about you, but you, you ever insulting yourself?
Speaker 5:Yes, bro, we think you are great.
Speaker 3:It's a whole lot of projection going around right now I'm packing my bag, but look clearly, but look real quick, I'm gonna circle back real quick.
Speaker 1:This is what I was saying when we was talking about.
Speaker 6:You know what I'm saying, Everything being cyclical in nature. I was talking about Air Force One. Back then you jumped into the you know what I'm saying the Air Max. But here's the thing everything's coming back around, that's all it is and I'll leave that.
Speaker 6:Because when I hear you talk about, yeah, I want marriage and I want this, what you described, I'll be honest, sounds really traditional, low-key, kind of hyper-traditional, and that what you want is a very it's. I feel like it makes sense that that's what you want. There's certain like kind of baseline.
Speaker 1:You got to give us a vocale right.
Speaker 6:No, no, I'm really not. It's really like we talked about this earlier. It's like certain basic things you need it's a being in a relationship with somebody for it to work Right.
Speaker 1:It's different for everybody. Because we talked about communication last episode.
Speaker 6:You need that and then that eventually builds in you. That's not a romantic relationship, that's in any relationship.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, but then that ties into trust, and then that also ties into beliefs, and then other things like hey, let me know what are your triggers, what are your passions, what are your opportunities Going only off? What he said, yeah, Based off what?
Speaker 4:he said he wants.
Speaker 6:Opportunity there is, so corporate, because you asked him about kids specifically, right? So going off of that, just that premise alone that tells you a lot. That tells you a lot, that you want a monogamous relationship where you want to be married and you want to be with a person who's committed to a lifelong journey with you Right, and some children, so that says a lot in you saying that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 6:That right there is like I feel like that's a. It comes back around to like that's what my grandparents had.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying and I'm a lot as a person as it is. Come on.
Speaker 1:Hey, I. Next season we need to make a concerted effort, dino, to bring on some polygamist individuals.
Speaker 4:Oh.
Speaker 6:Beyond all these things. Oh yeah, we do A polyamorous I'm sorry Because it's like polygamy, polygyny, it's all these things but polyamorous people who believe in us.
Speaker 1:See, and this is why Dino serves his purpose on the show, because I say a lot of incorrect words. We have no, we have no, we have no.
Speaker 3:I've started looking for a polygamy, a polygamy, a poly, a polyamorous.
Speaker 1:A polyamorous, a polyamorous, a polyamorous.
Speaker 6:Just say poly, a polyamorous, a polyamorous.
Speaker 1:Have you ever lived for that? I don't know how to we have friends that are in that In that community In that.
Speaker 6:I'll be honest. Some that I don't even know, Like people who quietly, are living their lives.
Speaker 4:Oh shit.
Speaker 6:It's not, I doubt they probably get on the pod.
Speaker 3:Spill the tea then, but it's the mindset of being in that type of relationship.
Speaker 6:Yeah, I mean or bro? Look at this.
Speaker 3:The mindset of being in a monogamous, traditional marriage nowadays.
Speaker 6:I'm not gonna ask you again.
Speaker 1:Please turn the mic to your mouth and make sure you speak into it, please, or just raise it for him please. Dino.
Speaker 3:Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 1:There we go, and then tighten it and then turn it. Yeah, there we go. Is this better?
Speaker 3:That sounds so much better. You can sit back and relax. Now, you can sit back and relax, but just make sure that, when you're speaking, that I speak like this.
Speaker 1:But back up a little bit from the mic.
Speaker 4:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna make sure that we're delivering the best quality sound Exactly and I respect this. So when you guys are Turn this mic volume down real quick when y'all are looking for that.
Speaker 3:I think that it's really the mindset of one, or you're looking for it too.
Speaker 6:You said, you wanted. No, oh you're talking about politics, looking for politics. You don't have to look.
Speaker 1:We already have friends who subscribe to that ideology I know, but I think that's gonna be a good, You're gonna have to look at his potions through this type no I don't, that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:What I'm saying is that the insight of the one person that they both are married to.
Speaker 6:Oh, I see, oh, oh, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 4:Or that they're both involved with it. Yeah, I mean we both are.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 6:Okay, it doesn't take a different mentality for sure, yeah.
Speaker 1:Any last remarks on the marriage type before this I?
Speaker 6:do nothing. Married overrated period. I think it's amazing. It's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1:It's not. You think that is marriage.
Speaker 6:I don't think people think it's overrated. I think they don't.
Speaker 1:Thank you, I think they don't, they're not taking it seriously. It's hard, bro, and they probably married the wrong person, that too. Yeah, but that's why and that ties into what you were saying you know about make sure you get it all out first before you get. But I remember there was a time where that was frowned upon Like don't wear your heart on your sleeve when you jump into a relationship, because you're vulnerable to get hurt and taken advantage of.
Speaker 6:No, grabbing is real. I will say there's a lot of things that wind up working out for me that I was actively discouraged from doing. You realize, when I was coming up me and you used to say it was normal to have a girlfriend as a married man, that was just how a nigger's talked, and it was normal.
Speaker 1:You looked at your lineage. I'm a married man. What are you talking about?
Speaker 6:I'm saying, when men talked to me about women or about relationships, what are you?
Speaker 1:talking about Having a side.
Speaker 6:That was just normal. It wasn't like, like having a side woman.
Speaker 1:Is that what you're talking?
Speaker 4:about. I just had to make sure I was falling.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah, yeah, you said a married man.
Speaker 1:I thought, he was saying something else. No, no, like a side piece.
Speaker 6:But my point is it wasn't even like a taboo thing, it was just a normal part of life, like sipping whiskey in the office on Mad Men. I mean, that's just what they did. They smoke in the office.
Speaker 1:It was Americans that made that, put that stigma in that.
Speaker 6:I mean a lot of Western civil. Yeah, yeah, western civilized.
Speaker 1:Committed to just one person, rather than during the Egyptian and archaic times of having multiple women.
Speaker 3:So can I ask to tell you I need us right, If you will.
Speaker 1:I'm not Egyptian, but you know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 6:Back during those times it was more common to have multiple partners. Back then, Whereas now we're in a Judeo-Christian civilization, whether I feel like you're saying.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like I'm not saying that's a tailor game. What do you enjoy about marriage?
Speaker 6:Hmm, hmm, yeah, let's get leading people some light.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I like that I feel like I enjoy it all really other than shit having time for myself, but I also enjoy giving that time.
Speaker 4:All my time is really devoted Taylor, Taylor. All my time is literally devoted to my wife and my kid.
Speaker 6:Hell, I'm blinking twice. I enjoy just having a partner where I can just come home and you got a ride of that.
Speaker 5:There's nothing I can't tell my wife. I can tell her anything I have how I'm feeling, how my work day was, if I'm feeling down, that's your best friend, I can tell her anything.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and literally with me just meeting you guys today. It has been just a blessing because I met your wife and I was like, oh my God, she's just like an amazing person, yeah.
Speaker 4:And her personality.
Speaker 6:And they all fit really well.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you guys do, because when I came to the garage I didn't know that she was a Well, I wasn't even looking at your hand, but I wouldn't have thought that. Oh, I'm walking in the garage and here's this married man exercising with Jonathan, who's also a married man. And then I go in the house and then I see this the wives, the baby. Yeah, come on. And she say we were just talking and just initially I was like well, maybe we need to take some shots, come on.
Speaker 6:And she was down more than you said. Oh my God, oh yeah.
Speaker 3:And so when she started speaking and was speaking about her family, that's when I put two and two together and I said well, that must be the husband. No idea and I put it together and I could really see how you guys' relationship work and correspond together, and so that's why I wanted to know, as a single man myself, how does it feel?
Speaker 5:Okay, Once you find that person that you can let go, let her down and just be who you want to be.
Speaker 6:Oh, it's a good friend.
Speaker 5:I got lucky, bro. I found my wife at a very young age, probably 18. Damn.
Speaker 6:So when did?
Speaker 5:y'all get married. We got married 20, what 30? Now 27.
Speaker 6:Okay, I got married 25. Yeah, similar. But yeah, I know people feel like they're searching.
Speaker 5:No I didn't feel you? Yeah, I've been here before and then we had my son was probably one and a half.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we got married.
Speaker 5:So, yeah, it didn't Okay.
Speaker 1:Did y'all feel any type of guilt or did y'all get any flack about, you know, having a baby out of wedlock first? No, no. Hell no I don't think that exists.
Speaker 6:Not, not nowadays, no.
Speaker 1:No, it definitely still exists, it just doesn't.
Speaker 6:It's not nearly as pervasive as things yeah.
Speaker 1:Cause. Think about it.
Speaker 6:We the uncles and OGs now, and we the ones have we got mad kids out of wedlock. The marriage rate how many married friends you got? I mean, I got about, I can count them on one hand. How many you got? Yeah, to me that town.
Speaker 1:Look but listen, cause I hear a lot of scary reports and stories about child support and stuff.
Speaker 4:And I, and I, and then tie this.
Speaker 1:Or circle this right back around to the news topic about, like the concept of marriage. Right, I take it as a big deal to have a child after marriage, because you need to know if the if you want to move forward with this person, and then have a child, you also have to take into regards your background and how you was raised.
Speaker 3:And so I can see where you say that and where where it does stem from yeah, but that's not my story and that's not, it's not your story and it hasn't been. But I can see why you want to stop with half pants.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all right, cool, I think we have danced around that topic enough and in the topic and speaking of the ladies just pulled up, so I wanted to hear.
Speaker 3:JT answer it Like what do you enjoy about marriage? What do you?
Speaker 6:enjoy about being married. That's a good question.
Speaker 1:Um, a little bit on the standpoint.
Speaker 4:Don't say my answer no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Not not time, let me speak, let me speak.
Speaker 6:No, if you piggyback.
Speaker 1:It's not a piggyback, but he had mentioned about Keanu being his best friend, and that's the thing that I love is just the the confine it's piggybacking, by the way. No, he was emphasizing that is.
Speaker 6:But go ahead, I don't want to.
Speaker 3:I want you to make sure we got going and butch, this is me trying to retract to being a main character and then just going back to the fucking navigate To have Jonathan's back though. What do you like about marriage?
Speaker 1:Go ahead, because Sam is the best I'm having fun Right and she understands me she lets me be me. I can literally be my. I mean the shit that I say about people and processes and things about.
Speaker 6:You can be your best self in front of her, but she makes me better.
Speaker 1:And she helps me filter myself before I get around to the people Really.
Speaker 5:And yeah, I mean y'all know, but you can just imagine.
Speaker 6:I don't want another unfiltered version of.
Speaker 5:Jonathan One.
Speaker 1:You see it's magic.
Speaker 3:But I really love you bro, but literally.
Speaker 6:Sam is the best Big time and it's not taken away from you as a husband.
Speaker 3:Because you're a great person Big time and just on period. Thank you, you are a great person. I appreciate that and I know we love to pick on you in some of your ways. Let it happen, Dino.
Speaker 6:Shit, I can take a compliment. I'm letting it work, baby.
Speaker 1:I'm letting it do it.
Speaker 6:I said thank you If Sam is here, he'll give it to you.
Speaker 1:Make sure you give it to him.
Speaker 6:You're getting your flowers today.
Speaker 1:Dino, Just help him and let me get them. He's trying to take the.
Speaker 4:I'm like tell us nigga. No, let them be a blessing. No, I'm crying, I'm crying.
Speaker 6:All the days, yeah, every rose petal. I would try to watch every lady Even.
Speaker 1:He over here trying to steal my shoes, whatever.
Speaker 6:What else you trying to take, not me? What else do you want from me? Oh, hold on, I think we got that button too. Hold on, where is it at? I'm just saying I'm here to support you, bro, I'm here to help you solve the crime.
Speaker 1:What more do you want from me?
Speaker 6:And you see him beefing with DJ Envy.
Speaker 4:Bitch nigga oh bitch.
Speaker 1:That's how I feel about DJ. Envy man.
Speaker 6:But you see, you got DJ.
Speaker 1:Envy got enough problems on his own to be dealing with to bring somebody else into his bullshit. Now I know that's our reason to insert for our listeners, right, dj Envy he's a host on Breakfast Club and shit and whatever. Got to give them context because they don't probably know what we're talking about and I know how annoying that is for us to listen to a podcast and be like what nigga are we talking about? So, for our listeners or whatever, y'all can look it up. But in short, dj Envy, the co-host of the Breakfast Club, and his wife were having marital problems, and then Tyrese, as a long-term friend, of DJ Envy.
Speaker 6:He noticed nigga when he hit him up at first.
Speaker 1:Interjected and offered his assistants to counsel them and to help them through their issues. And then one thing led to another, and then he started flirting with DJ Envy's wife.
Speaker 6:Now it sounds fucked up, and it is allegedly right, allegedly yeah, he didn't, you know he doesn't.
Speaker 1:Why is it still alleged? Because Tyrese hasn't said anything about it, right? Nah?
Speaker 5:he had a response, but I don't even know who it was, and even the wife came out and said like he.
Speaker 6:She said that it felt a little uncomfortable, like no, she said it felt a little inappropriate.
Speaker 1:You know why they're doing that shit, though why I feel like it's because that other shit that happened just a couple of months ago, with him beefing with Rick Ross about the car show shit.
Speaker 6:Oh, Envy, yeah, DJ Envy. And then too.
Speaker 1:His business partner in the real estate shit scammed niggas out of all that money and say all that investment money like that was an investment. That's a loss now for y'all. I'm not paying y'all back when you know.
Speaker 6:I think contractually. He said that if he almost got beat up by Gunplay, the niggas name is Gunplay.
Speaker 4:That's his name I remember that too. He's saying it's some shit.
Speaker 6:Hey, yo I ain't no gangster nigga.
Speaker 1:I just want to set it for the record. I know we talk a lot of shit on here, but we don't want no smoke over here. On the partners podcast, we love everybody. That's what we say at the end we love y'all, but.
Speaker 3:Dewey, can we go to Dino? Because we talked about how marriage has been. You know what do you like about marriage. You know what's the happiness about it. We talked to JT about how the marriage is for you. Yes, I would like your answer.
Speaker 4:In 30 seconds, please.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna give Only because he has a tendency of going alone. No, but Fuck you.
Speaker 6:I'm gonna give you the short version. First of all, I just have to agree. I have to agree. I think these brothers oh piggybacking Huh.
Speaker 1:God damn, look, look how the file that came full circle, man.
Speaker 6:I'm trying to no, no, no, no. Jocke said 30 seconds. That's why I got a piggyback. I've only got 30. God damn, no, I'm trying to validate what you're saying and shit, because I ain't got much time to cool my own goddamn Revalidate delegate.
Speaker 6:Y'all are the best who we? No, I think no real spele. I think it is a beautiful thing, man, to have a partner. This is something I've always said. I'm gonna answer the question directly and indirectly, indirectly, in 15 seconds. People say I've heard this a lot. This is like an ad, as you hear, since you probably was Yehi especially, who came up in the South Happy wife, happy life. I thoroughly Believe, disagree with that bullshit, fuck it.
Speaker 3:I don't.
Speaker 6:I don't, I don't, I don't agree with that we should both be happy Hell no, I believe in happy, happy spouse, happy house. I think we both need to see happiness, and that's the problem. That's what I'm getting at Is, I think.
Speaker 1:Oh, spouses, and plural. Like both of y'all, we both need to be happy.
Speaker 6:I want, absolutely I want you to be the. I want you to live the best version of this life that you can live, and if I can help you do that, let's get it. What do you need? The house, the car? What do you need to make the Love it Version of Love it? I mean, on the same side, it needs to be reflexive. I need you, you know Love it, pressuricosity, you, and I'm not saying you need to, but what I think I am joined is that I'm with someone who also wants that so she gives up herself to make sure that.
Speaker 1:I am happy and I dig that Through my experience I've had to. It comes off a little bit of a lecture, but just me saying like, hey, this is what I need, like it sometimes has to be a little bit of a reminder. I think the way you say it is important Right and it's being like hey, look like in order for me to stay sane or to continue being happy in this.
Speaker 6:Touch me.
Speaker 1:I need some space, or I need some sex, or just touch me, just hold me. You know what I mean.
Speaker 4:Or just come to me, because let me hang with the boys too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you need to.
Speaker 3:I have to say y'all, have Y'all, all three of y'all. First of, all.
Speaker 1:We're going to come back to your point, you know, yes.
Speaker 3:Let's just say that all three of y'all have some bad bitches as yeah, we do. Why they?
Speaker 1:will agree, let's. That's another thing I'm going to tell you. They are.
Speaker 4:They are All three of them when, the beautiful side of them, when were babies born Because y'all have the baddest wives that I've ever seen.
Speaker 3:You know what would be funny about that.
Speaker 6:No, and I love, yeah, man, I love it too. And what's wild is like, man, I love the herd now. I love her now more than ever, and the thing about it is like, even when she is like still trying to figure her out, man, I'm in love with that already. Yeah, you know what. I'm saying Because when you have children you transform. I'm sure you transform in some beautiful ways. And I think it does take time Well at least I think from experience For a mental experience for a woman, for her to really kind of fall back in.
Speaker 6:Not fall in love, because I think she's always loved what she is, but like, learn to accept this new version of her at every and it's the same with me. Quit the nine to five and having to work for yourself. But you have to accept a certain level. You're a different you. You have to be a different version of you to make this work now, because there's no fall back, there's no PTO.
Speaker 6:If you don't wake up and work and you're in pay, you don't invoice no one's going to pay you if you don't invoice them, so it's a different way of existing. But man, the dope thing would like and that's entrepreneur life.
Speaker 1:That's the fact. Was there a point that you were about to say about hanging with the boys or some shit?
Speaker 6:I was going to say yes, yeah, when you.
Speaker 1:And let's wrap it up before we I'll end on this. I'm going to say we can take it to you.
Speaker 6:Yes, it's a beautiful thing to live life with someone who understands you, who gives you what you need. And yes, you're communicating that in the way they can hear it. Go back to the last episode. But, man, when you get married, so when you get married, you, it's what they call it a sacred union. Right, it's a covenant. If you subscribe to those ideologies, theological perspectives, it's a union. It's two people becoming one, or however many becoming one.
Speaker 3:It's a contract.
Speaker 6:It's a contract with each other right. When you become one, you still have to keep you right, like when you get married. It's just so important. I tell people, bro, when you marry someone, you still have to very much keep you Like. You need to become one, work on y'all as a unit. You pour into y'all. You know build, but you still need to pour into. You Still need to keep your passions. You need to keep, you need to spend time with yourself. Bro, you cannot always be with someone, whether it's your kid, your spouse, your partner. Spend some time alone.
Speaker 6:My boys used to get on me, be by yourself.
Speaker 1:Sam, bring me, bring a Sam everywhere, Be by yourself.
Speaker 6:You know you gotta come out and kick it with your Whatever you enjoy before you got married, whatever that was you need to keep some of that because I mean you'll lose yourself, bro. You're lost in the south. Yeah, dig, dig.
Speaker 1:I love that. Yeah, good way to close this out, you know. All right, ladies and gentlemen, we are back. We had to take a little quick bio break, but now we are back and ready for prom time, baby, all right, so let's get in without further ado into the highlight topic baby. I must have seen the flash in the news. All right, I wanted to name this highlight topic Heart on my Sleeve, for you know what's the? Metaphoric reasons, huh, I mean well, yes, I do, but today's episode figuratively right.
Speaker 1:But I, this episode isn't about me or Dino, or Cedric. This episode we wanted to afford Taylor the opportunity to share his past experience of everything that he's been through in the past year, which you just recently hit your anniversary right.
Speaker 5:Yeah, august Meets, august Meets. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So, and I know the listeners are like well, what are they applauding to? What are you?
Speaker 4:talking about?
Speaker 1:Well, we're about to tell you so without further ado. I want to afford you. Taylor Townsend the opportunity to give an intro and just take it away from here as far as your whole journey.
Speaker 5:Yeah, thanks for letting me share it on your platform, on your platform. But yeah, y'all feel free to chime in wherever if you got a question.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we got some questions for you.
Speaker 5:Yeah, so essentially what happened to me was I had to have August 5th of last year. I had to have open heart surgery. My one of my heart valves was damaged so they had to go in and like put a mechanical valve there to replace the damaged heart valve, the METRIAL valve or whatever it's called. So, yeah, I was. I'm on my way to Austin. Well, I went to Austin for a friend's birthday party and I'm like, all right, cool, we party and we go dinner. And then we went to the club. So we get to the club and I'm feeling kind of hot, like I got a fever. I'm feeling like, okay, I'm just, I don't know, I got a cold or something, you know. So I'm there, everybody's drinking. We got a section, boom, everybody's drinking. They pass me the bottom like nah, I don't want to, which is not like me. I like drinking.
Speaker 4:I don't like alcohol.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5:So but all right, I'm cool. And then you know how we party After the club they want to go to the next one.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it was that's why we party, and I'm like, nah, bro, I'm not feeling good, I'm about to call Uber back to the hotel. Okay, so I go back to the hotel, go back to the hotel late down and I wake up feeling like horrible. Wake up, feeling horrible. Luckily I didn't drive to Austin. I brought with my cousin, my house and my little brother. So, yeah, we driving back to Austin, but I can't even like sit up, I have to lay down in the back the whole ride back to.
Speaker 5:Dallas because I'm feeling so bad.
Speaker 1:Like okay, cool, I feel like you got to throw up, or you just feel nauseous, or I just feel like weak.
Speaker 4:I can't even sit up, you know.
Speaker 5:So you know, once we get back to Dallas, whatever I just, you know, toss it up as I'm sick, I'm gonna be out for a couple of days and boom. So keep going. Like day three of the sickness, I end up going to the emergency like a standalone emergency room, kind of like a like urgent care type of thing?
Speaker 4:Yeah, like urgent care.
Speaker 5:I go to the urgent care and then they tell me I get tested. They test me for the flu and they test me for COVID.
Speaker 4:That makes sense.
Speaker 5:Yeah, and I did not have COVID. They told me you don't have COVID, but I tested positive for type A flu which is I think it was a false positive, but they told me I tested positive for the flu. The flu is a seven to 10 day recovery time. There is no because it's a virus. There is no medicine to combat the virus. So damn for type A flu, I didn't even know.
Speaker 1:Like any viral infection, you gotta wait it out, you gotta fight it, you gotta fight it, you gotta fight it. Oh, okay, I thought we were talking about lifetime terms, but yeah, okay.
Speaker 5:So at this point, okay, I go home, but I'm like super sick, I'm throwing up. I take medicine to try to like combat the fevers and chills, sweating, all that, and I'm throwing the medicine up because my body is rejecting it. I can't eat, I can't keep anything down. So, yeah, I'm just how long did that? Last.
Speaker 1:This is day three, right? This is all happening on day three.
Speaker 5:Yeah, kinda, but so it's probably all a blur for you for the most part.
Speaker 5:But I get through that and then probably like I'm not getting any better as these days go by. So, like day seven, I end up going to there's a hospital nearby where we were living at the time, which was Baylor. It's a brand new hospital, Baylor, Scott and White. We go to their emergency room. I tell them all my symptoms. I can barely walk to their emergency room. I get in there, I tell them all my symptoms and then who's with you at this?
Speaker 4:time.
Speaker 5:My wife was there the whole time.
Speaker 1:I'm very thankful for her being there, she's in the studio, by the way. Shout out to Key Honour.
Speaker 5:So yeah, I'm going there, but I tell them all my symptoms. I'm like I don't feel good, I'm dehydrated, I can't eat, throwing up Sometimes my pee. It's like it looked like tea, not to be too graphic, but yeah, it was brown because my blood was septic.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 5:So I tell them all this they say you just have the flu. The flu is a. Again the same shit.
Speaker 4:I'm gonna fight it out.
Speaker 5:Told me 17 day Recovery period. They can't do anything for me, just go home and wait. I was like, oh, and they give me some Nausea medicine. They give me nausea medicine, that's all they do and they send me on my way. We're walking out of the hospital. This, how bad it was. I was probably in the hospital In a hospital bed, maybe 20 minutes. Sanitaries come in, never seen a doctor. I asked for as for like fluids because I'm dehydrated, like give me something to help. You know they wouldn't give me anything, they just see me on my way. I say prescribe me the nausea medicine. So I'm walking out this. How fast they let us out of there. Do you know how sometimes, when you're in the hospital, the people come in. What are they called? They're either issues like for your payment, they ask you for your. I'll walk out before the lady could even get to my room to ask all the information.
Speaker 5:So as we're, walking out the door, she stops us, okay. And then we're kind of like right here on the ledge and she's asking my wife out as info. She has my insurance card ID, all that type of stuff, so they can bill us use in now. And I'm just like Head down, can't even stand upright, yeah. So she was like just let him go ahead, he can go ahead, and my wife stayed. It gave her all info, yeah.
Speaker 1:But this was as y'all were leaving the hospital.
Speaker 5:We're leaving the hospital.
Speaker 1:And then the nurse looking at you didn't even Bothered like trying to never.
Speaker 5:I never saw a doctor there, never saw a dog.
Speaker 1:But she saw you in that state and anything to you know. Get you into the hospital and admit you. That's crazy. Yes, okay.
Speaker 6:So that was the. I mean I don't want to unpack that stuff like, but I feel like I just want to get out. I feel like there's something more there, bro, because that doesn't, logically, that doesn't when you add those things up, it doesn't it doesn't make sense and I feel like they.
Speaker 1:I'm reasoning and you're still experiencing the same symptoms, like you're hot your week, your.
Speaker 5:I'm against it. Okay, get to that, but it got. It was getting worse than that. So we went home and this was day seven, all right, so damn, day eight. I'm like, yeah, this day eight I end up having a what they call a mini stroke. Had a mini stroke day eight Just because my blood accepted.
Speaker 1:Yeah we found out later symptoms of a mini stroke.
Speaker 5:We we found out later what the cause was. It was a bacteria infection, which it was still the flu when it was type H flu never heard of before.
Speaker 1:Type H flu. So we went from type A to type H type H but type H flu is a bacteria.
Speaker 5:It's not a virus.
Speaker 6:Okay, so antibiotics.
Speaker 5:Easily treated. So how do I have a dog knows me at the first hospital. I would have never had a stroke and I probably could have had the antibiotics.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's broken when you lose oxygen to the brain, right? Yes, okay, it's like a yeah stroke. Yeah, I had a mini stroke.
Speaker 5:So the bacteria was all in my system, it's all in my. The bacteria is in my blood. So, as that blood is transferring up, you know, but has to go to your brain, yeah, bacteria is releasing in my brain and it kind of got I don't know something. I stuck in the blood was not able to flow to some parts of my brain. So I get sad to say. Day eight I started like Talking super slow. I never felt any of, I didn't feel any different like I didn't feel the. I don't know what a stroke feels like.
Speaker 5:Yeah, you know yeah but I knew I was. My speech was Super slow, like I already talked slow, but you know it was like drastic and it was nothing you could do to change that Like.
Speaker 6:That's what that was like.
Speaker 5:I understood everything people saying, I could process it the same, but Words coming from me were like crazy slow, yeah, so yeah, um, and you noticed that.
Speaker 6:Yeah, I noticed it too. How do you feel in that moment? Like okay, I'm noticing, I'm just, I'm putting myself, I didn't realize it was a stroke, I didn't know what you knew your. You knew your speech was slow and you could do anything to impact that like. Was that scary? What is that?
Speaker 1:What were you saying to Kiana? What do you say to yourself?
Speaker 5:I was barely talking brown. I don't remember what I was saying. Yeah, yeah, cuz I wasn't talking much.
Speaker 1:But what were you trying to convey?
Speaker 5:like I, wasn't trying to convey shit, I was trying to get better. Like I was so bad I didn't know what I had. I was sleeping on the couch.
Speaker 1:And you ain't never felt that pain. I didn't want them to get sick.
Speaker 4:Yeah that's I didn't want.
Speaker 5:Yeah, so I was sleeping on a couch bro.
Speaker 4:And.
Speaker 5:I was functioning at maybe 20% of myself. I was probably 26 20% myself. I couldn't do anything, wasn't eating as well, so Didn't even know you're having a stroke, okay.
Speaker 1:Were you experiencing pain too, or just feeling?
Speaker 5:weak exhaustion. Okay, wow, I'm like. They said seven to ten day recovery period. Okay, I said, all right, cool. So they eight comes and goes and we're on day nine. I'm not getting any better. So my wife recommended we go get a second opinion somewhere else, second or third, cuz I thought that yeah, you know, second opinion, just like, yeah, yeah. It's something that comes. Well, yeah, we go to the third hospital. Okay. So she says, you know we need to go, so somewhere go to UT Southwestern, which is.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I was about to say Hospital they do, they think the best it's like number one rated like surgery hospital in the nation, in the nation, yeah. So yeah, we went. But before we get there, like we are day nine. So I'm like she like okay, we're gonna go, I'm gonna take you there. So they are, I need to Try to shower, you know, cuz I ain't, I can't.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm in shower.
Speaker 5:Yeah, so I try to go shower. Well, take a bath, cuz I'm you're admitted to the hospital at this point, right?
Speaker 1:No, I'm not.
Speaker 5:Oh, you said okay shower, so we can go to okay, okay. I try to shower, what, try to take a bath. I run the bath water or whatever, and I couldn't get in the tub. So I'm laying on the floor Because I can't even.
Speaker 1:You know I feel myself powering down as we're going through. It literally feel like a video game, like it's crazy how strong and how Like Important the heart is. It's literally the core in the center of your functionality. You know and then it's the brain. The brain second, but yeah, the heart is literally shutting down. And then which is?
Speaker 4:causing the brain to start so shutting down.
Speaker 1:And then he's literally like yeah.
Speaker 5:Get up to get in the tub, bro. So we just she helps me up, I'm gonna put on some clothes and we just go scary. So you know we go there.
Speaker 1:Do you mind? Do you mind switching spots right quick, because I want. I Know I said originally that I didn't want you on the pod because I wanted to you know respectfully, but we're gonna To our listeners. We are having miss Keanu, the wife of Taylor, coming on the pod. She's not gonna be on camera even though she's looking very stunning today, but Because I have some questions for you as well, because I think it's very important to Highlight, how you were feeling and what you were saying and what you know, because you I know a lot of this is probably gonna be a blur To him.
Speaker 1:He's not gonna remember certain pockets, but it's. I think it's Imperative to know what you're, what you were going through In your state at seeing the father of your son. You know your first son right going through this and Dealing and battling with the possibility that he might not make it right right and I know that that was probably really traumatizing. So you probably still is to this day. So it's only a year out, but I'm afford you some time, but just.
Speaker 5:To say we weren't even thinking about I might not make it or not at that point.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, but we're gonna get there.
Speaker 5:I know just, we know what was foreshadowing for our listeners.
Speaker 6:I'm just wondering, though, like okay.
Speaker 4:So I mean I'm a natural empath right.
Speaker 6:So I'm putting myself in your shoes, mm-hmm, and this is Well. You know, you, daddy, I got a son, I got a daughter. Like I can't even I don't have full function in an agency over my body.
Speaker 1:That's scary, I'm already tearing up, like I'm already, like cuz I know what's coming, I already know what's coming.
Speaker 4:Yeah, daddy, so when you were, you can't even get in a tub.
Speaker 6:Yeah, and wifey got to help you get up.
Speaker 2:I found him in the bathroom on the floor.
Speaker 6:See, that's, that's what I want to hear.
Speaker 2:What is it? Just walking in the bathroom Can?
Speaker 1:you help her, mike, a little bit, you know, right into the circle.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, I'm thinking like it's when I walk in the bathroom and he's on the floor, I like it. I'm just in my mind, I'm just like why you on the floor? So I asked him did he fall? Yeah he said, no, I laid here and I was like, well, why did you know why? He said I can't stand up anymore. I just like I don't have the capacity to do that. So I had to, like, help him get up and then help him in the tub and Bait him.
Speaker 5:I took a bath. Yeah, you did.
Speaker 1:I think I was. Yeah, I.
Speaker 2:Did? I had a head okay. I mean cuz he wanted to bathe, like he wanted to bathe. So I'm like, and I get that, cuz we go to the hospital If we don't know what's wrong, we don't know how long it's gonna take, we don't know when you're gonna be able to get in to Take a shower at that point.
Speaker 4:But we don't know they're gonna make us stay or not.
Speaker 2:So we have been to the hospital. We had a few visits with our son. So my mind now is we never know when we're gonna have to stay and every time that we had went at first we would think it was just gonna be in and out, yeah, and we always ended up needed to do like a target pickup order or something to order some clothes and, like you know, toiletries, so I was like this time.
Speaker 4:I'm gonna pack us some stuff.
Speaker 2:I just packed us like a mini little in my bag, like in my. I had a purse. I packed my purse with like underwear and a change of pants for him and like some sleep clothes for me and I'll just throw on whatever so this is the same day, right like.
Speaker 1:After you're bathing him, you're like no, okay, he probably needs to be admitted to the hospital. Yeah, let me just see, yeah, I'm thinking okay, where's Tatum?
Speaker 2:Tatum did after day like for he didn't stay with us anymore. We, taylor, didn't know what was wrong with him and he was like I don't know what I have. Yeah, so Taylor told his mom to come get him, and he didn't. He left, so he was staying with Taylor's mom that whole time.
Speaker 1:Sorry to interrupt, but let's go back a little bit, alright. So after the shower, y'all go to the hospital. You don't pack clothes at this point, right? You just, yeah, I packed a light bag.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, okay, so like that and I'm like okay, cuz I'm thinking we're gonna be here Maybe a date, two tops they're gonna give me every day before this, yeah gonna flush his system. It's the flu.
Speaker 2:You know I'm saying so I'm like, okay, maybe it's a really bad flu, they gonna flush your system, they gonna give him some medicine, he'll be fine in there too. This is enough to hold us over. That's my thought process. So we get there, and by the time we made it from home to the hospital, he couldn't even get out of the car. I had to get a wheelchair to help him. You remember that into the car like they got.
Speaker 1:I was trying to walk in me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, to the door and then, cuz I didn't, I didn't get out the car, go get a wheelchair. Are you walking to the door and when you're walking up there, or somebody standing there?
Speaker 5:He was like walk to the from the car to the hospital door, but he couldn't walk in there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they were like um, he was standing, he was like leaning in. The man saw me like kind of supporting him and I'm Significantly shorter than Taylor, so they were. I mean, he's not super heavy, but it was a. It was a dead weight.
Speaker 2:You know. So he was like um, you need a chair. He ran in, got me a chair and brought me a wheelchair back out. So we put him in a wheelchair and rolled them in. I got him checked in, everything was okay. You know we're not okay, but with the check-in process they're like okay, we're good. So my mom worked at UT Southwest and a long, long time ago and she told me, if you're ever in an emergency or whatever, you always tell them that His chest hurts, even if it doesn't just say that yeah, because.
Speaker 2:We never thought anything was wrong with his chest.
Speaker 1:Seriously, we didn't do that was never any pain or or concerns about the chest. No but, but you had already got the information about the mini stroke right. Oh no, no, yeah, no, okay, I had already.
Speaker 4:Yeah so okay, I'll get there, so get the.
Speaker 5:UTC. Worse, in they check us into the. They could take us back to the emergency room. I just told them on my symptoms. And then UT Southwest and did they? Did they big one? They did every test you can imagine like it did a CT scan, mris, echo scans, ekg, spinal tap, final yeah, I was getting to the spinal tap. That was probably the first test. So they thought Because of my symptoms I could probably have had, could have had meningitis, so I had a spinal tap first.
Speaker 1:What's final tap? For our listeners that it's like a big ass needle they put in your spine to get fluid out from your spine. Get the fluid out.
Speaker 5:Are you?
Speaker 1:conscious at this point, or are you? And a Steven Ain't no epidural for this, yeah but you're probably in so much pain and weakness that you don't even mean.
Speaker 5:I feel that a little bit, but it wasn't nothing to cry about in there shit.
Speaker 1:You say you talk.
Speaker 5:Well, yeah, I cried in there, but that wouldn't a reason I cry. But so, yeah, they run out of scans and then they Determined that I okay, so we're not a scans. And then the head of Surgery comes in, he talks to us and he says head of surgery already?
Speaker 1:Yeah, he couldn't gracious.
Speaker 5:And he says you know, we think we know what's wrong. It's probably, it's like a bacteria or whatever. Yeah, and then he said you out of order. Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 2:So when we got after they they were running all the scans and stuff. They ran like, like he said, a million scans. We at that point they had already run blood tests but because they didn't know what it was, they started to get super nervous because of how far into the process it like it was our. We were on day nine, well, they 10 at this point so they were nervous we had Um the infectious diseases team, heart team, brain team general.
Speaker 2:Everybody, so it was like five or six teams. They were coming in, including the med students for those teams.
Speaker 5:Yeah, they had never seen that before so they had never seen before. The doctor told me afterwards it was like a one in ten thousand case. He was like he had to go back through his old journals like med meds with the resident students right.
Speaker 5:No, this is the head of the head guy, oh, oh, oh, you say, you say you're going through his old journals, med journals, to find a case like mine, but this is before this is what he said that after they could, they didn't even know what it was until after they opened up his chest, that's how we.
Speaker 2:They never knew what it was the bacteria. We never knew that it was type H flu.
Speaker 4:Yeah, after he had surgery they came back and told us that because they, they could, they just kept telling.
Speaker 2:Every time they came in Type A, they could tell us what it wasn't. They can't tell it because they didn't know, so they were just telling us it's not this, it's not that, it's not this, it's not. I started getting frustrated Because stop coming and telling me what it's not. Yeah, can y'all figure out what it?
Speaker 4:is.
Speaker 5:Yeah, when they did the, I guess, the MRIs and the CC scans and they saw, you know, there was something on my heart, it was a mass on my heart. She so that bacteria infection. You know, it's running through my blood, it's running in the blood and then it ended up latching to my heart. So it created a mass on the whole on my heart and it damaged the heart valve, I think.
Speaker 1:I don't know if they in goodness that that was visible.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah. They knew about the damage on the heart I have to so they saw that mass.
Speaker 2:They thought they could save it at first. They saw the man, they thought that they could, but it was too big, it was at your dog and I was at day nine, so that was like a ten day. It was ten by this point.
Speaker 5:So yeah, then once they did that the head of surgery came in and said you know, before they Processed how big it was. They said. He said you know we get some, get you some antibiotics. And then again with that and we should be good, essentially, then, one of his Protégés, which he was still a great certain he's the one that did my surgery. He comes in. He says You're gonna have to have emergency heart surgery.
Speaker 1:Hey man, shout out to the protegees Delivered like he came in.
Speaker 2:He came in his. His bedside manner was a little bit better than it was, so Bedside what his bedside manner. So the head surgeon came in he had a person business. Yeah. I mean yes, he came in. He's just kind of like all right. We're gonna try to give you the antibiotics. We're gonna see if it shrinks the heart I mean shrinks the, if it's the mass, and with the bacteria we'll see if that helps. First we just gonna do a cocktail, we're gonna try that's what the head doctor, the head doctor was like we just gonna try a cocktail of antibiotics, six or seven different ones.
Speaker 4:We just see what's the most effective.
Speaker 2:We'll just do it, we're just gonna mix it up and we're gonna see if that helps.
Speaker 2:That way we can try to avoid the heart surgery. Then the heart surgeon came in mind. You, he's a protege he looks at. He's like I'm looking at this and I like no disrespect to what he said, I'm thinking you gonna have to have heart surgery. Like I'm seriously, I'm just telling you what it looked like and this is what I'm thinking. We said, okay, cool. He said, but if y'all want to try the antibiotics? We said in my mind he's 30 years old. I don't want if y'all don't have to open his chest.
Speaker 5:He came in there.
Speaker 2:Like no, no, no, no, no, you don't remember, I do, I was here. He said he said it that day. No, because it was the same day. He came back later that day Okay so he said it like it was, like the let's call, let's give a time frame. So in the morning the, the head doctor, came, told us the antibiotics. We said okay cool.
Speaker 6:We think it's oh, it's all then the same good thing.
Speaker 5:This is day 10.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so day 10 happens. We like okay, cool antibiotics. We tell everybody like okay, cool antibiotics, that's what I'm making. Calls out, it's just antibiotics, we're gonna be good. So let's call that 11 am.
Speaker 6:Mm-hmm. Okay, double back am.
Speaker 2:The heart surgeon comes in, his protege comes in. Let's call that three o'clock pm. He comes in at 3 pm. You're gonna have to have heart surgery. I understand what he told you earlier. We get it. I get you need, I don't want. I'm like. No, like he said, antibiotics.
Speaker 2:So I'm thinking that's the route we gonna go that he like. Now you have to have heart surgery. Well, he don't know yet, but I'm he's saying he thinking, he, thinking it, but I'm Telling you like. Also, you gotta be mindful like he is the head of surgery, but he's also not doing surgeries every day.
Speaker 4:Also he's the black dude.
Speaker 1:From doctor, I mean from Grey's Anatomy, he not always. Doctor who. Thank you, not the chief CSNM in the studio, by the way.
Speaker 2:Like all right, cool. So he says that. When he comes and says that my whole, everything, the floor, like you know how on these movies have like the floor open up. That was when he cry, he started.
Speaker 5:One time I remember crying in the hospital when he that man came in there told me I don't have to have a heart surgery.
Speaker 6:And it needs to happen like yeah, and it needs to happen now.
Speaker 1:Like right, oh shit.
Speaker 6:I got goosebumps. That is terrifying.
Speaker 2:He was like tomorrow. That's what he told us he was like and that's when y'all called us.
Speaker 1:You say we got the news and then we were on the road the next day or the same day.
Speaker 2:He told us that wow let's give that, let's call it. Maybe that was. We went in on a what day do we go in? Tuesday or Wednesday, something like that? So we went Tuesday evening if he told you.
Speaker 3:He told you that that was a what it was a Thursday.
Speaker 2:It was a Thursday that he told us that we had.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it was because the next day Friday.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah he said we got to have surgery, we're gonna do surgery tomorrow, like we can schedule, we can get them on the books for tomorrow. So that's when I started calling everybody. I called everybody like I sent the text out to like the main family members and then y'all, because we have like group messages Already going, so I was updating people, I sent it in the main group messages and then I had to take a minute. So they say they needed to take him for a skin. And I didn't tell him to after the fact because it was just like I didn't want to stress him out, no more Like.
Speaker 2:But they thought they had to take him for a skin and they left me in a room by myself. So when they left me in a room, it was like the bed they take the bed and everything with him. So it was literally just a like an empty space, two chairs. Yeah, I'm sitting in this room. I feel like just like my world is ending. There's a guy, because a hospital was kind of over capacity so they have somebody kind of sitting out in the hallway.
Speaker 2:He was sitting with his uh like son or you know nephew or something, and the man he has saw was from me and Taylor. We cried together, we was hugging, we prayed, it was a whole thing, and the door was kind of cracked. He said I just want to let you know I overheard that whole situation and that was beautiful and I just want to let you know that God got y'all. He ain't gonna let nothing happen to that man. You are right. And I was like okay, because I was walking out to like just catch my breath. I just needed to go outside.
Speaker 2:So I walked outside and I'm about to cry. So I walk out the hospital and I called my best friend. I'm like hey.
Speaker 2:Don't get me on camera. So I walk out the hospital and I'm like all right, cool, cool, cool Cool, let me call my best friend. I got to talk this through with somebody. I need to get this out. So I had already called my mom and I told my family and his. So I called my best friend. She answered the phone and I'm screaming like I just started screaming at the top of my lungs.
Speaker 2:I couldn't even put the words together. I just started screaming. Yeah, so I'm screaming and she's like what's wrong, Tell me. And she doesn't cry. This is my strong friend I have to call my strong, strong way.
Speaker 6:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:She's not a cryer. And I just call her and I'm like Screaming and she's like stop, you're gonna make me cry, you're scaring me, scaring me, stop, just what, stop? And she's like breathe. So I stopped and I breathe and I finally was just like okay, and I breathe. And I was like yes, they have open heart surgery. She's just like, oh, my god, yeah, and it just broke me. So I just took a minute and I sat in front of the hospital on the ground and I just cried. And I just did that because I need to get myself together, because when they bring him back from this skin, he's not gonna see me cry yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not gonna let him. We. We didn't did that part, we did that already. So we're not. We're not doing that, no more. We're not doing no more tears. That's not what we're doing when we get in here. So he was like I'm like all right. So I finished talking to her. She's like okay, I'm here, you need me call me whenever and I'll be there. You know, like I got you. So I'm like okay, cool. And then I'm like all right, let me go back in here. I go back in. They opened the door, they let me in. I go in the room and I'm waiting. So we have like his family members. I'm like I know they coming. I call his dad. His dad lives in Jackson Mississippi. I let him know hey, you need to be on your way. He was like I'm on the road, like I'm getting on the road tonight. He left at like three o'clock in the morning and pulled up on this, so everybody's started making it in time or whatever. But the surgery was scheduled for 9 am the next morning.
Speaker 2:Okay so I'm getting everybody together. I'm telling him who we got coming, who not coming, or Everybody's. I'm just trying to keep his spirits up. Everybody love you. They come in like you know no, look, then I'm probably talking about?
Speaker 5:no, look go ahead, then doctor, come in. The same doctor, dr Hodge hide hide my bed.
Speaker 2:He saved your life. I'm like.
Speaker 5:Yeah, we go in there, Well we dare. And, like she said, everybody's come in and stuff. He come in kind of before the surgery and he says you know, I ran the calculations for a guy your age. And my health and the type of surgery that you got to have and it's a you know 5% chance that you won't make it and I'm like that blew my mind because, like no, no percent is what I want to hear.
Speaker 1:Yes, I'm saying like even a 1% chance that you just won't Make it through this surgery.
Speaker 5:It like I Don't.
Speaker 6:Yeah, it took my mind somewhere else, bro, like I'm, I gotta be here, so man that's here, I'm thinking as you like hearing that now, of course, yeah, so I'm hearing is now like 5% not making means there's a 95% chance you will. Man, that was my thought process. You have to go there. He didn't have that, daddy, and yeah the one argument.
Speaker 2:There were two arguments that took place Between me and him and you know I'm like, I'm thinking in my head. I can't argue with this man.
Speaker 4:He's sick.
Speaker 2:Is that I'm trying not to?
Speaker 4:be everything we had two arguments.
Speaker 2:One was the night before surgery. He tells me I'm sorry, I know you had no intention of marrying nobody who was sickly and dealing with having to take care of nobody.
Speaker 2:And I'm like first of all, that's not an apology that I ever want to have, because when I married you, I did it in sickness and health. We had that conversation. So don't ever apologize for that. And first of all, I'm the sickly one, y'all. I got a whole bunch of problems. So you married me knowing what you know. This is a friend and you signed up for that. So, with that being said, it's never a hassle for me because you he's never said, oh, it's not a problem. So I'm like all right, cool, that's the first time I have to check him.
Speaker 2:I'm blowing things exactly. I had a double back and check him again the next day after the doctor said him he got a 5% chance, because 5% that's good to me.
Speaker 6:Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's great because it's 90.
Speaker 2:That again, like you said, it's a 95% that you will you will make it he's thinking about nine. He's like 5%. All now. That's his thought process. He starts to try to have a conversation with me about insurance documents, life insurance I'll, that's just responsible.
Speaker 1:That's some good.
Speaker 2:I didn't like that and I told him don't say that, because he said come here, I see where you come, he tried to have.
Speaker 3:it personally, I'm not thinking that cuz you don't go, you don't go to the negative off the back.
Speaker 2:I lost it. That was when, and I came out and shout out to him Bam, I came out because she, I didn't know y'all were there yet. Yeah, y'all were there at the time, y'all made it. I didn't know that I didn't know that y'all made it yet Cuz y'all out in the lobby because they were telling us only so many in it in the room at the time.
Speaker 2:So we didn't know y'all were there yet and I walk out because I storm out. I'm like, don't say that to me. And like I'm yelling at him. His mom is like what's wrong? What's going on? I'm screaming don't talk to me, like, just stop you remember this
Speaker 2:So I leave out. Yeah, I walk out and I see Sam and I just run up and I hug her and I squeeze and I'm crying. I'm like he lost his mind, like what's wrong with him, he giving up on me, like I'm losing it cuz that's my Think where I'm at this point.
Speaker 1:No, he's trying to prepare you in the event.
Speaker 5:If I perish from this earth make sure that I get it.
Speaker 1:He's trying to leave you in this thing. I try to come here.
Speaker 5:It's probably like maybe two out before surgery, I know, try to bring her to me. I'm like, hey, you know I got. I can see what life insurance here.
Speaker 2:I got 401k here.
Speaker 5:If you know, I got life insurance to my job. You know I'm just trying to break everything down to her who to go to to get this bread that's to get.
Speaker 1:I'm saying because I got a will and I got a continuity document.
Speaker 5:Yeah, don't she's. Yeah, like she said. She likes throwing that like that. I want to talk about that. Then I'm like I like daddy, come here. Somebody got a sense I had to break it all down to him of what you know where everything was, where my money is, just in case. If I you know, if I'm not here.
Speaker 6:I get what she coming from, but no, like that's as a man, he's a protector provider right, you need, like I said.
Speaker 2:I understood that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, women are the nurturers.
Speaker 2:Marriage yeah, I just wasn't there. I wasn't ready yet, because right now in the ticket I'm terrified like I'm.
Speaker 1:Let's take a pause right, quick, because we got a stress to our listeners how important it is to have that continuity, to have that willpower to have those tough conversations, because they need to be had. It's almost as tough or tougher than talking about prenup before a relationship or a marriage. Right, because those conversations need to be had, like there's assets that need to be Maintained, a possession, because if you don't, they, the state, the government will take that motherfucker even if it's not, let's say you own nothing.
Speaker 6:Let's say you niggas have no generational wealth and we have not yet to accumulate what we should have at this point. You still need to have some estate planning, but we don't we don't even be having plate dinners. I'm saying go find me for your funeral. Sorry, yeah, and you weren't here when he talked about it.
Speaker 1:We don't have to do that no more but Taylor, you know, and I'm sure you're part of the plans, whatever, but like he's got some real estate endeavors, that he's, that he's indulging in that is gonna set you all up for success and you need to know what the game plan is, because let's say hypothetically and God for a bit, of course, with her, but we're speaking in past now that something did happen. What to where? Let's say that he didn't die, but let's just I know, I know. But. But this is more so for the listener standpoint.
Speaker 6:Now, we will educate them, every last one of us. Let's not. Yes, yes, of course we are all. That's not the focus.
Speaker 1:I mean okay, we yeah, yeah, right. Yeah, yeah. You do need a plan for that at some point in time, and so, when you feel like you're in the most decent state of mind, you need to have logical conversations with people that are in your vicinity, within your circle, that will be able to Handle life and make sure that those in those endeavors are handled.
Speaker 2:And I'm so glad that he had that conversation right with my father-in-law, you know, obviously because, like I wasn't in the state of mind at, that time to receive that. So even if I hadn't stormed out and listened to him, I wouldn't have heard nothing he said, because I knew that he Pops to because because?
Speaker 1:another thing too, like the black father right, still president in your life and having a monumental role right Because he is acting as the confidant like all right, cool, it's my responsibility if something does happen, and I'm really kind of like the only one that can stay saying and this is his son, that he's witnessing is only his only son, taylor. Yo, and so like what I can only imagine. His only shot, and so I can only imagine what he's going through. But he understands and assumes.
Speaker 2:Him cry. That is the first time I ever seen Taylor's dad cry, ever in life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cry.
Speaker 6:That is like his dad.
Speaker 2:His dad is the strong, his military man.
Speaker 2:Yeah like since we were kids, military man, 40 year military plus military career still with the VA now. So it's a whole thing. So we come in like together, like you said, at that moment, after I storm out, I have a whole breakdown. We come back in the room all of us y'all were there for this we pray, we get to, we hold hands, we circle around a bed, we pray, we say, okay, you know, god got you. So they say I can, you can come down with them, you can come down with them, we're gonna prep him for surgery. I'm like, all right, cool. They come and say we're gonna, we're gonna start doping them up.
Speaker 5:No, then they, before that they roll me out. I remember. I don't remember a whole lot that day, but I remember.
Speaker 1:I know.
Speaker 5:I look to the right. See Kako I'm like oh. I Couldn't like pick my hands up a number, I saw her. I was just saying it could. Just I think I'm random. Yeah, he's up. No, he asked me when we were downstairs.
Speaker 2:He's a cuz. We were down so they started kind of giving him the medicine. They start get they starting to prep him and stuff for surgery and he think he tripping like I saw Kako.
Speaker 4:You're not tripping, no, I'm like.
Speaker 2:I'm no, you saw, you definitely saw Kako, and we just did it at the time and it's like Kako is a baby, so she don't know what's going on but Tatum, at that point he's a toddler, he can see, yeah, his daddy, he's used to his daddy in top form. He's not used to that. So that's his superman and so for him we didn't want him. Tatum was like I just don't want him to see me in this way.
Speaker 4:I don't want him to, I can't pick him up. I was gonna ask about that. I respect that. He was like I can't pick him up and I can't, and so he was like once we finish the surgery.
Speaker 2:Let me get a little better. Let me just figure some stuff out and then we'll. We'll go from there with Tatum. So we talked to him on the phone and FaceTime and stuff. So I'm like, alright, we go down, we have it. So they start to. They like we got to shave his chest, we got to get him ready for surgery. I'm like they shaving your chest, he done y'all. He's downstairs, he hot at this point. They starting to give me medicine, he flirting with the nurses. I'm in the room.
Speaker 2:Just let it happen, baby Okay they all like older, like they're older women, grandma's yeah these are all the most aunties. So it's nothing, I'm not offended or worried.
Speaker 1:So, key, let's take a pause. I'm sorry to interrupt.
Speaker 2:Go ahead.
Speaker 1:I. Do you remember anything at this point? Like, like. Can you recollect?
Speaker 5:And then they, really they shaved everything bro they say he didn't understand.
Speaker 4:I'm like laying on the.
Speaker 5:It's like imagine this being metal and I'm laying on a table like this and they just they have to shave. I guess work for cuz they got to cut me up and I don't know what. That I don't even want to look at a video of like what they actually look like yeah, is there a video that you have? No, not with my search, I'm just saying up that. But I just I don't want to look at it. Well, get the footage though, just so that but I watch what?
Speaker 1:I think that's like dope Archives to have okay in the vault. You know what I mean. Like, especially if you got a picture of your heart. No, I get that shit.
Speaker 5:That's it. I'll be my first tattoo if I went through something like that X-rays of Like what it looked like before and after, if you ever become like a rapper or a singer, you have to.
Speaker 1:That's the album cover. That's the album cover he wouldn't easily.
Speaker 5:All right, so let's keep going. All right, so Landam, because I want to get to post Exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sir, right, I get there, okay.
Speaker 5:They do Well, I'm laying down and they dope me up, so I'll are. They're shaving me afterwards. I'm just laying there and I just remember going to sleep and when I wake up, it was done. It's the fucking. I don't know what it's called, but I can, I wake up, but it's all the way down my throat and I cannot breathe.
Speaker 1:So you freaking out, but that was breathing for you. Yeah, and I'm trying to like tap the lady and like that's my throat Are you in the room, I mean when he wakes up.
Speaker 5:I'm gonna try to tell her like, but I'm doing Just like holding his hands down, like I'm like pull it out I understand, but the hot.
Speaker 2:So the issue is. But let me time out, reverse for just like two seconds before sir, so he remembers waking up for surgery for me during during surgery. It was an all-day surgery. Let's start there.
Speaker 1:He went to sleep and what they said, that if the procedure was gonna last anywhere from Four to eight hours, right, yes, yeah, and it ended up that lasted about six, fifty-three yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it was, I was, he was, so he was in surgery for just about seven hours.
Speaker 1:So we had to get out. Everybody was like everybody leaving, going.
Speaker 2:I didn't leave, I never left.
Speaker 1:She stayed the whole time, but everybody all the friends family.
Speaker 6:I was telling everybody go eat, leave yeah it's something y'all gotta know, like when it when all this is going on, cuz at this point, like what you're describing. I remember this. I wasn't here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, dino is part of this story too, because he's telling me what's going on have to do the.
Speaker 6:Quick interjection and then we'll go back to key. They would go.
Speaker 1:So listen.
Speaker 6:So I got a call.
Speaker 1:This is how Dino gets.
Speaker 6:Dillon with this. He's like yeah, no, no, before we even go to.
Speaker 1:Dallas, like and this will be real quick, but for our listeners we are the wins. That Wednesday is when we get the text from Keanu and she puts us all in the group. So I know that's something serious. And then so I automatically kind of go into, like Actually, and in that Friday we had the Kevin Hart concert, that Show that we were gonna go to, and I was so excited because you know he's my favorite comedian and like and yeah.
Speaker 1:And so when the next day, that Thursday, I was like all right. Sam was like, do you think it's that serious? I was like, yeah, like we'll see it might just be something. But when you said bacteria, I was like already mentally getting prepared because I've seen that in the military before. And then so Friday morning, yeah, thursday around noon is when Keanu says yeah, it's about to happen, the surgery is confirmed. We're it's gonna happen at noon tomorrow. So I was like all right. Well, so I tell Sam, I call Sam at work and I'm like, hey, you need to get home as soon as possible. No lollygagging at at the school, whatever, come straight home. We're about to pack and we're on the way to San Antonio. Second phone call I make it to my mom telling her like, hey, this is what's going on this stuff.
Speaker 1:So I'm all freaking out or whatever, cuz she loves Taylor. And then I call Dino and I'm like bro, it is pains me to say, but I have to head to Dallas and I have to and I need Kevin.
Speaker 1:I think it's Kevin Hart tickets. Greg had a pair and me, greg, sam and and Courtney were all gonna go. Greg just dispose of his tickets or whatever. And then Courtney was like here I'm gonna give you the ticket and you find somebody to give it to. So I called Dino and like look, this is what's all going on, or whatever. And it, dino, is just like kind of automatically going to mode to like do I need to come?
Speaker 4:Dallas I'm like no.
Speaker 1:I was like, I was like just wait. I was like I don't, like it is serious, but if it's open heart surgery, I think he's okay, but yeah, I knew it was something official.
Speaker 4:And you, we had some dark.
Speaker 6:We had to keep it close knit.
Speaker 1:But I wanted to kind of like project, like the noise, right. So and then fast forward. I was like Dino, like it would be an honor for you to go to the show for Fast forward over. Dino can't go to the show, so then we get tickets to my mom and my aunt or whatever, and then they able to go and enjoy the show. And if we're driving it to, we drive that night to Dallas and then we're there or whatever, and then now you can pick up when you left off key, right.
Speaker 2:So basically, once we started, once they started, so they told us, they told me they were giving me the rundown why they were shaving his whole body. They were giving me the rundown that we're going to be doing the surgery. I'll call you with updates so I'll tell you when we start, I'll tell you where we are. Like every couple, like every hour and a half or whatever, will give you update. So I said, okay, so I'm sitting there waiting. Every time I gotta go there will, and we'll also call you with any complications or anything like that. We let you know the whole process.
Speaker 4:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:So they called me and told me, okay, they couldn't them open right now and, like I said, the nurses were older, so and I'm just like okay. When she said that she was like hey, we got him, we preform, it's okay, you are right here in good hands.
Speaker 2:And so I'm like, okay, she's like all right, I'll call you back in a little bit. And then she called me and was like all right, they got through that. It was just a little bit. And they called. She called me, say we got him open. They already cracked his ribs or blah. She said they, you know, got everything done. She's like we, they about to get get going and it. So it'll be a little minute before I call back so we can be all hands on deck. But I'm just letting you know.
Speaker 2:Okay so they just kept giving me updates and I was just up there and I was waiting, I was telling everybody. So every time they would give a bit, I would just shoot a text out to everybody, let they know where they were in the process. We didn't have any complications, nothing happened or whatever. So like, all right. And then, finally, I'm waiting toward the end. They didn't come back to say they finished. They nobody said nothing. So I'm looking for my phone.
Speaker 4:You're not out in a nobody said nothing.
Speaker 2:So then I'm just waiting and they have this TV screen. I'm sorry they have a TV monitor with all of the like your last name, your surgery, your time that the surgery has been going on, if it's over, whatever in the status.
Speaker 6:The status yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, his name went away and I'm like, what the like now? What the fuck? So now I'm losing it because his name, his name gone. Anybody call him. I said nothing.
Speaker 1:So then they come out, walk out, all happy, like everything went well.
Speaker 2:Everybody's walking out, so they walk. I see nurses and stuff walking out. I don't see the nurses that did, the ones that I know. Yeah, so they apparently done switch shifts and everything on us and ain't nobody said nothing. So I'm panicking a little bit. And then I see his surgeon walk out. He took his head off his head. My heart dropped.
Speaker 6:I watched too much TV. I watched too much TV, like your mom, right? Why?
Speaker 2:would you take that scrub hat off your head, like that. I was like, why would you do that? Because, first of all, you put because you play well done.
Speaker 1:You played too much Was he smiling or was he like no he just was regular story, not straight face.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it was. It wasn't a sad face, it wasn't a happy face.
Speaker 1:They look forward to those moments too.
Speaker 2:Let me down, he was so happy, like he. You know, because they have to sometimes, I realize they have to detach.
Speaker 2:Yeah to be able to do their job in a good way, and he was just like I'm. So he was like they're good, everything's fine, he went, everything went, perfect, it went well. He was like they, basically we, they started closing, we were closing up, or whatever. When I walked out, there were closing up and I was like okay. He was like alright, so I'm gonna come back and check on y'all in a little bit. You know, like I just and I'm like I'm thinking my head like you've been standing up for eight hours Almost. You've been prepping, like go ahead, you need a cup of coffee, you need to get you some and that takes some Exercise to be able to stand up sandwich.
Speaker 1:Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2:Yeah, go to the bathroom. You're fine, go ahead.
Speaker 1:I understand if I'm a surgeon, I'm like a. I need crab legs fed to me at this time and then I need like.
Speaker 5:Me up. I'm kind of like I've you know stitched together.
Speaker 6:What does that feel like this point.
Speaker 5:This probably numbed up on wake up and I just, I just remember not being able to breathe.
Speaker 1:So the pain didn't read all that with that felt like yeah but it did when?
Speaker 5:because they had to give me a CT scan to make sure like everything looks good, yeah, yeah, like on the seat on the scans, my heart and everything. So they have to because I can't move, cuz. You don't really realize it.
Speaker 2:Because Taylor was trying to take the tool about his mouth.
Speaker 1:I mean, yeah, cuz he don't know how to not breathe you bring something else breathe.
Speaker 6:For you.
Speaker 2:I would have been freaking out to like I know I get it, but I was trying to explain to him cuz they explained it to me, cuz I'm that, that's what I listen as somebody who likes to be in control, and I don't have control.
Speaker 1:I'm freaking the fuck out.
Speaker 2:And I wanted to ask him if they could just put him back because they want. So the thing is, there's something else. It's like a little machine, yeah, that monitors your oxygen. His oxygen level needed to be at 80% on his.
Speaker 6:Yeah, before they can pull it out.
Speaker 2:He wasn't there yet. He was at 60.
Speaker 5:It was right, Well they should have let me back sleep. You know they picked they, I had to. They have to pick me up because I can't move, because you know I'm saying you don't really realize how much you use your chest. Yeah, like, move because it's your core you can't do anything without this feeling.
Speaker 6:Yeah, but what a gauge in that.
Speaker 5:So exactly so I'm. I can't get up, so they have to pick me up. I'm like on a sheet, so it like I got four people on the AC side. Pick me up and put me over to the CT scan. Yeah, we thought they're trying to move me over and it was so. I felt so much pain, like right here. Yeah, I remember you described any kind of movement like bro, it was the worst.
Speaker 1:So what does the pacemaker come in at this point of the story?
Speaker 6:Um, Um or with the end during surgery or after you just say you yeah, you have a mechanical component that helps.
Speaker 5:Oh, okay, yeah, so yeah, before that, during this, like when they're talking about surgeon, everything I know I have to have it they said, okay, you can have a Pig valve. Okay, or you can have a mechanical valve. What, enlightened, what is it? Yeah, it's a pig.
Speaker 2:Hard valve oh. Okay it's more, it's more human, like, yeah, I'll give you the pros and cons of it.
Speaker 5:Yeah, the pig valve. It only lasts about 15 years and you have to get replaced. Replacement, Okay. Um. However, it's like human life. So you don't, you live your life.
Speaker 1:Is that why they're doing so many procedures lately with pigs and human? Okay, well, you can live your life, naturally.
Speaker 5:I mean, I have to do anything, it's a chemical valve. And Kako mechanical valve last in the building, by the way, ladies and gentlemen, yeah, however, with the mechanical valve, your blood has to be thinner or it's a past. Okay, so I'm on blood Then it's my life because I have the mechanical, because I'm like this shit hurt y'all not doing this again.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah give me the mechanical valve and I'll you got to take blood thinners for real for us and daily, or like every day, every day, like at the top of the day has to be within a certain range.
Speaker 5:So I have to like no kind of maintain a diet or really so.
Speaker 1:Should we get there at no, or is there anything else that we need to discuss about? Like, like. Yeah, yeah, let's go ahead and pivot to that point. I mean well, like, is there anything else that we need to address first? Yes, before we exiting.
Speaker 5:Yeah, kind of like them throughout the recovery and surgery. But all that together, like the love was real. When I got in there you don't really why guess I didn't really realize how much I was loved as a person, my friends and family, like everybody that showed up for me, that shit like meant the world because I couldn't. I couldn't really move when I was in there. So when people would like come see me and stuff Everybody that came in, I'm not really like touchy-foo the first and that's not my love language. To like touch it's not my love language. But when I was in there and I couldn't do anything, you know, when people walked in I would just put my hand out, so that's all you wanted to do was touch people.
Speaker 5:Couldn't do it. You know, Everybody came in, I just you know so that was a revelation for you.
Speaker 1:Like experience, like wow, like I want to actually.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I wanted to do in that moment every time somebody he saw, somebody that's connection was give him a hug because he couldn't.
Speaker 5:He just always how much. I needed, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I wanted to, I wanted to bring up that Kevin Hart thing because, like as much as bad as we Wanted to see him, like all four of us right, it was so easy. I got excited for us to assemble, like the Avengers, and, to you know, drive and march on to Dallas to come and be there in support.
Speaker 1:I was looking forward to those moments right because you know, man, like they put us through so much training and shit in the military, whatever to get prepared for those moments and stuff, whatever and it was fun and I had a few moments to experience that in the military, but the realest that it felt was that was last year and to see and for Keanu to be Nick Fury and call everybody Into Dallas or whatever, like that shit was so fucking dope man to put that on display.
Speaker 6:You know what I'm saying you know Absolutely, and for I mean for life to be a state like that. Bro, I'm telling you again, I felt the gravity of that situation. So now hearing that that's what makes me well up when I hear that, because I know the pure, the pure admiration of love I have from, like my kids, or from my wife or my closest friends, to have that in abundance Right before me, like I didn't realize, like you know. Until you Love you.
Speaker 1:There were more men crying in the room, then women.
Speaker 5:Crying bro, I didn't want to see nobody crying. I was in crying.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm in there trying to, you know. Yeah, get well, but I don't see nobody.
Speaker 5:They nobody feeling worse than I.
Speaker 1:Am what you feeling yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm in there. I didn't cry not one time the whole time because I kind of felt like I had to assume that strong. I had to be strong for Keanu. I see how. I saw how Keanu was trying to be and I was like I need to help, support and be that conduit of strength. You know what I mean. And it's tough, whatever because I saw his pops being like the, the 42 Statue. That's tough and I was like, okay, I just want to help support. I like where can I Be a beacon of hope and a?
Speaker 5:beacon of support this drink. I got stuff. Yeah, let's get one thing from Surgery and then we can move to recovery.
Speaker 4:Yeah, okay, I had a.
Speaker 5:I had a, so they took the mask off right with the heart surgery. They didn't realize what I had until they were able to take the mask off and then you know, go assess what this, what the hell this is. So, that we didn't. They end up determining was type H.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know, fluke the mask on your heart mass.
Speaker 4:I mean yes it's mass Sorry.
Speaker 2:Sorry.
Speaker 6:Sorry, yeah, it's like.
Speaker 2:It's like a clump. It's fatty tissue, so it's like a big.
Speaker 6:No, I just like I heard you're a big clump of fatty tissue that had attached to his Mitra valve the nerve of that was a result of the bacteria. Yeah, but that's man.
Speaker 5:Exactly so. I end up having another mini stroke during surgery. So, even though they took the mask off to replace the valve, that wasn't my sickness. My sickness was in the blood.
Speaker 4:So the blood it was still in there.
Speaker 5:So when I got out of surgery I had a pick line. I had a pick line in my arm.
Speaker 2:Which is like a permanent, is like a semi permanent. Iv.
Speaker 5:Yeah, so they give me so they have to give me that would give me a medical professor at this point. Yeah, cuz when I got home she had to do it for me.
Speaker 1:And that right there, dino, I explained to everything about the marriage.
Speaker 5:Um, but yes, they, they were giving me antibiotics to fight off the Um bacteria. Which? Which wise fuck Baylor, because had they figured it out when I was there, yeah, I wouldn't, I don't.
Speaker 4:I agree.
Speaker 5:I don't think I would have had to have surgery had Baylor caught it. And then I feel like Baylor were being like, was being you know races and just saying, okay, and some dicks.
Speaker 6:So that's I'm actually glad we went there, because when I'm hearing this, bro, there's so many parallels to so I mean I must say, just take knowledge. I don't like hospitals. I don't know however nice they are, good things usually don't happen to us in hospitals and so, like you know, my wife having two babies in a hospital. I was looking at doulas and shit the second time, like I don't know if I'll do this shit again, mm-hmm.
Speaker 6:But for her it was easier and we did it that way. But like hospitals, usually good shit don't come from, and like the experience as a black person and we know there's statistics with this right with women, with me, and like you know, paint threshold there's, there's this assumption that you can deal with more than you are and you're exaggerating because we're loud and we're whatever.
Speaker 2:They weren't trying to hear me in there, bro, I'm telling you I was and I'm so, like I said, I've been here a couple times so people know, some people don't I'm very loud and vibrant and I'm very boisterous when it comes to how I feel in my emotions. So at Baylor it was a lot for it because even him, feeling as bad as he did, was kind of like a you know, like he was kind of awesome like simmer, because I was on go, because what y'all not gonna do is come me here and act like he, not saying what he's saying don't don't negate don't play with my don't.
Speaker 2:Negate what he's saying to you, he said he don't cuz.
Speaker 1:Because I kept? Because he does like I said early he doesn't get sick often and don't forget how we got here, because we we took. It took nine days for y'all to acknowledge oh shit, we got a serious deal and in three different hospitals to tell us, bro like.
Speaker 2:I was a Baylor, the my main issue with them was when we came in. This is something like Taylor, he said it like perfectly. However, when we got there, my issue was like we went to the urgent care, they tested him for flu, they swabbed his mouth and his nose and that was it okay, real hospital, the real hospital.
Speaker 2:They didn't do anything. Yeah I when I tell y'all they took his temperature and his blood pressure and that's it. They didn't test his urine, they did not test his blood, they did not do a mouth swab, Y'all just trust the bed but y'all switch. Y'all just gonna trust the word of urgent care. Yeah, we didn't even bring the paperwork to show y'all that. They said that he had the flu. We could have made that up. Quick question.
Speaker 6:Yes, before we pivot, I'm gonna you know here about your recovery. But like there was no health, like there was no kind of preconceived, health concerns. Nothing that led you to like this seems to just kind of have come out of a great question.
Speaker 1:Bro, I ain't, I'm a very um healthy, don't have like no diabetes or no.
Speaker 5:My blood pressure right now I just went Wednesday was 124 over 80.
Speaker 1:They ever say where the bacteria came from.
Speaker 5:No, so they. That's why um I brought, I promise you, at least 50 doctors and male students came to my room because they had never. They never seen they were Amazed, but amazed like in a bad sense, like they had never seen this before. Yeah, so they were all because you know? So a case study for them. You know, they had never seen it, so we um, we were yeah that just showed his ass all across the camera.
Speaker 6:Thank you so much.
Speaker 1:Thank you for showing your ass on to the world. Okay, you got a, you got a big.
Speaker 5:Very healthy man.
Speaker 4:They don't know how.
Speaker 5:I got how I got type H flu. I don't know how I got type yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know I'm saying so, I no idea bro, does that bother you to this day, like the fact that you still don't know, like, because I know that would bother me, like.
Speaker 2:I want to know what the source and. Where it came from, because my husband yeah it's like I want to know where it came from because, prevention. What exactly? Because how do we go about not not getting it? Again, that's my thought exactly is it something and I wanted to know, like, is it something that just happens in everyday life?
Speaker 2:Because, he ain't been nowhere. It's not like he had just traveled or anything, yeah, like I mean aside from going to Austin, but he was feeling sick when he got there. So I was like there's nothing, this is new, and so I that's. So I think that's probably one of the main things that kind of bugged me still.
Speaker 1:So you kind of always have you kind of feel key on it, like that you have when I open at all times just to make sure and observe.
Speaker 2:Oh, even with him. Yeah, he started coffee like Taylor Kyle. He I got a little tickled in my throat and I was like we want to hospital.
Speaker 1:Did they say that it was hereditary?
Speaker 4:at all. Okay.
Speaker 6:I'm sure like maybe predispositions that could make you know if you right Preexposure to it?
Speaker 1:Well, I asked that because you said you keep an eye on Tatum.
Speaker 4:Because, just because, every time like you know when you get sensitive in these.
Speaker 2:Like he has a little car now and if we go to the doctor. I'm testing for type.
Speaker 4:Like you know I'm saying so.
Speaker 2:It's like you know when you go there like RSV, the normal stuff they said, the little kids from normal stuff His dad has type H food.
Speaker 4:Is that something for that too? Can you see about that? Oh, I'm like, can you?
Speaker 2:test him for that too, and it's just kind of like they like. Yeah, I just be wanting to make sure, so you don't know, that's such a rare thing.
Speaker 6:I'm imagining that they probably look at you Like can I test him for what?
Speaker 2:I don't. How do we even test for? Do we got them testing? Hey, don't know.
Speaker 1:H figure it out, don't know so at this point we need to pivot to post procedure.
Speaker 5:Because you hear talk to us bro. So yes, exactly, I'm in there. Praise report yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah let's get us some applause.
Speaker 1:Going first before that man. Yes, man, it's a blessing. I bless you.
Speaker 5:I'm in there I'm in the hospital, a total of maybe four weeks.
Speaker 6:Right.
Speaker 5:It was such a long time. I was so ready to get out of there. But I'm in there, you know they, after day one after surgery the surgeon comes in, he checking on things, just make sure everything's good, make sure I'm good. He says. You know the recovery is. I Six months, six months to a year, six months or a year recovery.
Speaker 6:How do you feel about that when you hear that?
Speaker 5:I told him I was gonna be healed in three.
Speaker 2:Okay. He said it's gonna be six months to a year for your recovery title. Look that man in his eyes and said I'm good in three and and three months from that day, I probably I was back.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah come on iron heart, but stone heart baby.
Speaker 1:So I'm in there, I wonder, that's maybe the first day.
Speaker 5:They're the game first day back there I told y'all can't, I can't really move the, so I have a physical therapy, that have a occupational therapist, a speech therapist. I'll tell y'all was talking slow, yeah, and I remember he also had a second mini stroke.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have a second.
Speaker 5:The, that mini stroke it calls numbness Right side of my right side of my face was numb. And it also caused tremors, like my left leg was shaking like crazy. I couldn't stop. The leg doesn't shake.
Speaker 1:I saw you hitting your leg when we were working on the in the garage.
Speaker 5:The right hand still shakes sometimes, but maybe five percent of time it's it'll shake a little bit, but um, but yeah, it was shaking like crazy. I couldn't.
Speaker 6:There's nothing you didn't stop.
Speaker 1:Yeah it was like Parkinson's yeah exactly right shake like that.
Speaker 5:Yeah, because of the stroke. So, yeah, I got, yeah, pt O T speech, therapists and also a psychologist came in. But yeah, first day the PT made me get out of the bed First day. I didn't like her no more today because, Because they want you to, I guess it helps you healing process. You know if you sitting up, yeah so she made me get out the bed like I had a walker, because I can't walk.
Speaker 1:She said you said three babies. So come on, let's get up, let's go.
Speaker 2:He had a younger Therapist, original. After that he kept telling me I need somebody older, because this girl, because- you know, how you have to like how we talked to our counterparts. Yeah, he just kind of like I'm a shot of the bro Huh, and I know if it's an older woman they come in here.
Speaker 5:I can't, I can't do, no, but yes, ma'am, and no man.
Speaker 2:He was like I can't, I can't talk to my granny, but yeah, but my cousin oh yeah.
Speaker 5:I can hear I get up, I get over 10. Yeah, the worst part about being in the hospital and recovering everything was I Wasn't able to just take care of my family like my son. I can't I ain't want to seem like that. I can't hug him, I can't hug my wife, really.
Speaker 2:And then the second to be with the second part.
Speaker 5:The second part was, like I told you, she made me get out the bed and also I had to walk her. Because I couldn't walk, I had to learn how to walk again. Like that's crazy, because in my brain I know how to walk, but your body is, but my body will not walk. You know, I'm saying, wow, fucked me up, man, let me see, you have to rebuild your strength.
Speaker 6:You have me learn, yes.
Speaker 4:Let me interject the question Wow yes, how did your mother feel?
Speaker 1:How did mama?
Speaker 5:hope. Feel man, yeah, she was down bad. I'm sure she probably she didn't like a lot of people that came in there didn't want me to see them, of course. Of course they were trying to be strong.
Speaker 1:We did it with each other so like she seemed like she was really did it, so we did it with you all throughout the whole process.
Speaker 2:She was composed and we both. So we, what we did was me and her both. We said we weren't gonna cry with in front of him. We never. We weren't gonna do it. We had. We talked about it. Everything we did we did behind closed doors. When he went to sleep at night I cried in the shower. She go in the hallway, she cry. We come back in both eyes red I got a good relationship. Okay the best one, that's my home girl, that's not that's not what's one of my best.
Speaker 1:A lot of people don't have that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it is. So we with her. Her thought process Only was that's her baby. Like you know, as a parent, parents that I don't have a. And we don't got a reason. And it's like not to say that Taylor's a favorite, but it's like that's her first born. They were together for seven, eight years before she had on the kid.
Speaker 2:So that was her little rolled out for the longest. So you know they still have that type of relationship. So for her it was difficult and it was very hard to see him like that and, like I said, with his dad he's his only child. Like miss hope, she got three other kids, but with him this is my only kid is my mom.
Speaker 2:And so with that it was that was difficult to see him, not in the in form of what she's used to seeing, so she was heartbroken too. But when it came to their recovery Everybody was on him, like. You know, she like that's my mom, that's my baby, and she usually like a. He just don't feel like it, and she I was trying to like it. You know what he's tired, it's the. She wants to be mad. But then it was like hey, he said he was, and I that was probably like the after surgery was the only time we ever like bump head. So this is a funny story really because she was trying to temper.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I was like and slow-rolling and you were like no, he said three weeks, he's not three months. He said he wanted three months here.
Speaker 2:So funniest thing ever me and Taylor's mom have a cold word. Our safe word is pineapples.
Speaker 6:Kevin Hart again.
Speaker 1:Funny how he keeps interjecting into this podcast.
Speaker 2:Pineapples is Uncomfortable, a sore subject, something we. There's no further discussion after pineapple. This said nothing else?
Speaker 6:Yeah, because we wasted, so they took.
Speaker 2:They came in post surgery and told us that only one person can stay in the ICU room A night.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All right, you can stay. Tonight is his first night after surgery. I'm gonna stay tomorrow. We can just alternate. And I told her no, ma'am. She was like she was like no, she was like what you mean? No, ma'am, and I was like tomorrow too. And everybody, the whole waiting room, because, mind you, his friends, his family, everybody's in there, and I was like I'm gonna say it, you can hear a pin drop.
Speaker 2:And she was like what you mean, you gonna say tomorrow too. And then I said I'm gonna stay tomorrow and every other night. And she looked at me like she was about to, like she wanted to busk up. Yeah, and I said pineapples. Her eyes filled up with tears and she said you ain't never said that before.
Speaker 6:Yeah, like we talked about this years ago.
Speaker 2:Pineapples was established years ago.
Speaker 6:I didn't know how the hell you guys just that's it was random.
Speaker 1:She was like what made you get to that point to stand your ground against his mother? Because it's a them and because of your role.
Speaker 2:This isn't this my husband. It's my best friend, it's my other half.
Speaker 1:I'm in here like this is my son, but you got to see from her perspective too, like this is my son, the most of my first born.
Speaker 2:Look and I understand.
Speaker 6:You leave mama.
Speaker 1:You cleave to your spouse you know how hard it is.
Speaker 6:I get it.
Speaker 4:I will say yeah well.
Speaker 5:I was in there. Yeah, that woman never left my side. I don't remember, yeah, a night or a day in there. She might have left like a four cup house with one of the rooms I was in didn't have a shower, so she had to leave you to go, yeah, shower somebody's house and she came back but, um, yeah, I remember that. I don't ever remember her.
Speaker 1:She washed her ass too, can I just tell you real quick. It's not out to the the strong black woman wife mother, caretaker, nurturer, all that shit. That's really beautiful.
Speaker 6:I think this is a lesson I learned, and I'm when I hear you say that it's something people need to know.
Speaker 1:I haven't.
Speaker 6:But you, you, your, your mom's, yourself, y'all in the waiting room. One thing that y'all did that I've learned in hindsight is really important Is you gave yourself time to feel, not in front of him, right, but you, you, you like, okay, I'm not gonna let him see me cry. He can see me sweat, but so he go to bed or go with that, whatever. But you let yourself feel because we bought our emotions up, especially black man, and it's so unhealthy, it's such a not a good push it, we are best you can pour into it and you can only take so much, then you it's gonna eventually overflow.
Speaker 2:And what does that look like?
Speaker 6:exactly.
Speaker 2:Please give yourself time to feel, feel and profit need that just you got to step back from situations Like I said how, when he tried to talk to me and I had to, like, I said I could understand it. Now I could, I thought about it after that, like, and I understood why he was telling me what he felt like he needed to let me know with the information about the wheels and all the other stuff. But at that time I couldn't. And so it's just like, sometimes you have to kind of step back and realize, think logically, you know. Then you have to think about stuff in the way in right, the right now, you know yeah, taylor, yeah, I have some questions for you, oh, okay, well, like I mean, no, I'm it like it's gonna tie back to cuz.
Speaker 1:I know you're not post up. Like what? Like walk us through. So continue, first and foremost, like continue walk us through.
Speaker 4:The exercises walking.
Speaker 5:Yeah, you're on walking. I can't know what's next, I can't walk, so.
Speaker 4:I wanted to take. You know how to walk again.
Speaker 6:Yeah, we right, it took you a fucking week.
Speaker 1:Man, Come on man.
Speaker 5:You know I couldn't. One thing I forgot like that. I still has an effect on me to this day from surgery and strokes and everything. When I get sleepy, my Right I like drifts because it can't focus, so I can't. I can't really see my right eye. Yeah, I just have to like blink. You know hard.
Speaker 5:Yeah so that also happened. But um yeah, as I'm what I'm, when I finally learn how to walk again, I'm like stumbling barely walking. My mom and my Brother on is on the side of me, just in case I don't. But I'm walking, but I can't see anything. Everything is blurry.
Speaker 6:I was open, but you can feel it. You can feel your legs, though. You can figure on my Instagram right now of me my first walk.
Speaker 5:That yellow scrub and yellow but if you look at my eyes, they're like buck. He couldn't because, I can't see. I'm like walking, but I'm like where am I going cuz?
Speaker 2:I can't see, and again with the wife Jumping in yelling at people because he kept it like so. He would say you know how y'all are so strong as black men. He would tell this to me like he thinking, like he confided me, me at night wish I was. And he could find me, me trying to tell me at night. You know, he was telling me, my eyes are fuzzy, da-da-da, and they come in in the morning is everything good. He always straight.
Speaker 2:You know, we're not know, we're not fuzzy he can't see cloudy, because at this point what the night cuz? I don't want To ever send you home. Yeah, and there's something that I'm not equipped to handle or deal with because you're the source of communication.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna be on this behalf.
Speaker 6:She's advocating for Cuz once we go home.
Speaker 2:I don't want us to have to come back here because of something else. So we go, they gonna fix everything that needs to be, Put that on this bill put that on this bill.
Speaker 4:So we don't, I don't want a new bill.
Speaker 6:No, they ever say.
Speaker 5:Cuz. They didn't even say like anything about my tremors. There's nothing they can do about it. Like it just has to eat some people. It go like I don't want to keep getting on a tangent bus like Some people it doesn't go away. Like one of my close friends we had. He didn't come to see me in the hospital and I was really kind of fucked up back of nigga.
Speaker 1:I love you, my dog Like you can see, ties it to what that, what we?
Speaker 5:talked about in the past episode. You can tell you came to see me like one day, like I just need to see your face, bro, and we end up having lunch afterwards. You know, just Catching up and everything blah blah, he goes to tell me like he couldn't come see me because he couldn't, he didn't happen in him, because his brother Went through the same thing the year before, just the same, probably the same year or like much.
Speaker 2:It was like a couple months before, but it was a different.
Speaker 5:He had a staff infection.
Speaker 3:Okay so but the.
Speaker 1:Trample is the infection in the leg, but going all the way up to the bacteria.
Speaker 5:But you know, the bacteria got in his blood.
Speaker 5:Yeah, blood became septic Is he okay, no, that's what I'm getting at His blood. You know, got to see him having stroke but his stroke was a lot worse than mine. So I'm still. I went through what I went through and that shit was hard, bro, but I'm thankful that I'm still here and, you know, function pretty much at a hundred percent. You know, because he he's still in a wheelchair through this day, like he can't walk, because of you know, the common catch is he had the stroke, he had the you know bacteria to end up getting to his brain.
Speaker 6:Same type of thing, thing happened to him.
Speaker 5:But, he's like he couldn't come see me because. And then his brother, when he had the stroke he was like he had because mine I just my speech slurred and I was talking real slow. Yeah, his brother, sometimes you know, you just you don't, you not registering what's going on and you start talking crazy, yeah, and like his brother was talking all kind of crazy. So he just saying random stuff, yeah, and but I never, I didn't go to that. He's like he didn't know.
Speaker 2:He didn't know the extent of that, and so he thinks he's like he couldn't separate the two. Yeah, he's thinking that's incredible how God is working.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I feel like this Taylor, like how, what a, what a, what a, what a revelation you are like to all of us. Right, because that's pivotal. He, like, he is monumental in your life, the, this brother that you're speaking about, to kind of like have an indirect relationship and to give you indirect view of what, how bad it could have been right.
Speaker 6:You know, oh, yeah, all this is happening quietly in Dallas, texas, if he had not informed, me. I would not have known this was going on.
Speaker 2:But this is, and we did it. We didn't post anything, we never put it on social.
Speaker 4:This is major and like his brother, so him to be tricky.
Speaker 6:You felt the way like you didn't come see me. Bro, I like he was just lay eyes on you and he's dealing with the same thing with his brother.
Speaker 1:My life's on the line, and he's tell you what my brother was like.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he but he was suffering. His friend he also had, and I will. He talks to me about it. When he got home I said you gotta be mindful, because he wasn't mad at me.
Speaker 6:I yeah, but you thought like yeah it was, it was, it was.
Speaker 2:But he was it was fleeting, it was like a fleeting thought because I feel that, but then it's okay.
Speaker 1:He also thought like so internally you felt it, but then it's like I just handled it, you accordingly.
Speaker 5:I know what type of friend. Which is cool if we gonna be that type of friend. We.
Speaker 2:But that was able to balance the skills. For Taylor it was just kind of like, yeah, he come home and like tell me everything about he's. Like that's crazy. You know me well. But the thing is, and it kind of also made him take a step back and think about the fact that, because that was even before Taylor got sick.
Speaker 1:So Taylor's thought processes- Right to what Dino was saying about black men, specifically Because they, because we don't want to be burdens to other people, right but, Keanu, say it again, say it again.
Speaker 2:Exactly what friendship?
Speaker 1:is, and this is what we all everybody, especially to our listeners, man, we need to get on the same accord as far as, like, the definition of what a friend is, accountability. No, it's man's expectations, yeah that kind of what you mean Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Speaker 6:Expectation, I think as a friend. I think we already talked about communications important, no matter what the relationship is romantic, platonic, friendship, family, whatever it is professional, I think it's. I've learned this, bro it is so important to set expectations and to manage them home.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6:What do you expect of me, of a friend, because this goes back to? Was this last two episodes ago, episode before you?
Speaker 1:whatever you like, let's okay, oh no, this is last episode, me you going back about like this 30% to 100%.
Speaker 6:They yelp that right, you're you're, you're 100%.
Speaker 1:Oh, no, two episodes ago. I'm sorry. Yeah, it's too, we're right.
Speaker 6:Yo, yo, 100%. Give them all to my partner. 100%. That 100% could be a measly 30 to somebody who's used to way more. Yeah, there you see you. Could they people cook for them by them Jury when it's their birthday and you over here doing all this, you think is a lot nigga. This is 30, your hundred is measly and and vice versa, your hundred percent, or or I'll say yeah, your hundred percent can be like 230% to a nigga Much back off.
Speaker 1:He's a lot.
Speaker 6:You know. So you, you really got it, bro, you got a.
Speaker 1:We'll talk about that, yeah, all right, but yeah back to. You're walking now. I'm walking.
Speaker 5:That's the workouts.
Speaker 1:That's what I want to know about.
Speaker 5:Walking for the workout. So. I'm walking and the shit that fucked me up so bad was, Bro, I would. I mean I got the Walker but I would take like three steps and I'm like Swedgling. Like, like, I just ran five miles, bro. I used to run a lot. No, I used to be so tired bro, just taking like ten steps, bro, like, and I'm like breathing you're trying, you're exerting a lot of energy.
Speaker 5:Yes, bro, and I'm like I gotta sit down because I can't, you know, saying I can't, yeah, I couldn't do nothing. So I had to do that. A lot, bro. I was in the.
Speaker 6:I was in the actual hospital maybe about two weeks Kudos for keeping that quiet in spirit, bro, because yeah, bro, yeah, I can imagine how you get like exert. All the in is like man.
Speaker 5:This shit sucks like I can't like pt would come in I would have to do the walks. Oh T would come in, they would try to Give me to help me like regular, regular stuff, like I get an occupation like yeah, brush my teeth like I couldn't even. Yeah, like I couldn't even um, like should we take for every day for granted? We take stuff for any bro.
Speaker 4:I couldn't even.
Speaker 5:Brush my teeth. I can put my shoes on. My wife had to help me do all that shit. That's why, like in the hospital, bro.
Speaker 4:That's mad humbling bro.
Speaker 5:It's a lot of People in those hospitals rooms but they just have the nurse. They got hit the button. They need to go to the restroom. They hit the button, call the nurse, stay life. I was so thankful to have my wife there and my mom, marriage, just help me. I didn't have to. It felt a little better. It's probably helped in my healing as well because my mental just like I have people there that I know love me. That's helping me to the restaurant.
Speaker 4:Yeah, if me like, it was a point of time, bro.
Speaker 5:I couldn't even like not to get too great bro, I couldn't even wipe my own ass bro.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so she did wipe your ass.
Speaker 6:I couldn't move like literally, but that's love, that's all that that I mean. I like my wife as she had a baby. It's, that's, that's.
Speaker 1:I know what.
Speaker 6:I like.
Speaker 1:No, no, I mean like, just real quick I feel where you coming from, about like because I want to go back to that point when you were at the US said earlier about you feeling Kind of helpless for lack of a better term Like like being a provider for your family and being like the staple I keep foundation.
Speaker 1:I come back out of a sub, out of nowhere. All that shit is shut down by force. And then now she has to step up, but she's willing to step up and she wants to step. She's doing and she fucking doing it, dog yes, and she handled it with grace and style and and composure and poise. You are Queen Kiana, thank you, and we applaud you.
Speaker 2:I Know, and I he was. He would always tell me how appreciative he was and he would just be Grateful and just gratitude. And I'm just like listen, I got papers on you, baby. We signed in there's license together, honey.
Speaker 1:She said we ain't going nowhere.
Speaker 2:I wanted to ask him so many times. We're not at the same wedding. When he says sickness and health, richard.
Speaker 1:Ford yeah that's what we know the words For a ceremony until it plays out. This is not a hassle.
Speaker 2:This is not a hassle. This is nothing I feel like. This is when you get, when you accept a job, when you reach your job requirements for a job, that's paying you, when you accept that job you accepted, with all of its requirements.
Speaker 1:Do you not? And some people.
Speaker 2:Think about. This is something we honor.
Speaker 1:Some people aren't prepared for that until like it happens, and then that's when everybody gets tested. Hey, be careful with that, carry on Let me tell y'all something.
Speaker 2:This is one thing. This is my one piece of advice that I will give it to anybody before you get married. Before you get married, think about it like this Are you or are you not willing to, if it ever comes down to it, wipe your?
Speaker 6:I was just about to say if you can't, I was.
Speaker 2:Your spirits to do that.
Speaker 6:I never thought about it.
Speaker 2:Then don't get married.
Speaker 6:This ain't for you.
Speaker 2:This ain't the job for you.
Speaker 6:Hey, that's why you're a job for you. Can you wipe their ass? Yeah, that's real.
Speaker 2:My wife, my husband, if I need him to.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, I can hear the bitches right now. Yes, yes, and I do it better than you, bitch, sit your ass down.
Speaker 6:I Married.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you got ten seconds.
Speaker 2:About the marriage. What do I love about the marriage? What do?
Speaker 1:you enjoy. And again, for the second time we gotta.
Speaker 4:Wrap up the story.
Speaker 2:Okay, what do I love about being married to him? The laughs Honestly, nobody knows. Like everybody assumes like people who know him. If you know him, to know him is to know that he's hilarious.
Speaker 6:He is absolutely.
Speaker 2:Anybody from the outside looking in. He's just quite reserved Cool calm. Oh, my man, my man, my man, we know who you are.
Speaker 6:We know who you are, but you gotta listen though, because I just told you literally today. I was like so how was it? Yes, I was like, yeah, we was kicking it after we recorded and yo, ted will say some shit. There's like like the I'm gonna be honest, like the, the donnell jones, she the steal, yeah, it was so appropriate.
Speaker 1:but I'm like if you weren't listening, you wouldn't even have got how fucking appropriate for context, we had a we had a debate about, and I was just being for season, his delivery might be like I said that jack weasel's the king I said that jack weasel is the king of r&b. That's a crazy, and I was ready to spark a fight. Yeah, I was like a verbal fight, a verbal debate, if you will, yeah. And then taylor has these, just these witty one-line Come back.
Speaker 2:It's always a one-liner. Yeah, it's always a one-liner, like we were, we were pledging, bro.
Speaker 1:I mean, we're we'll taylor crossed after I did whatever, but in his interview, when we're all in the room I know I'm giving this to her.
Speaker 4:No, I'm not I can reveal this part.
Speaker 1:but like uh yo, one of the bros was telling at ass taylor, hey yo, the kicks that on your feet, what's your size? And taylor just responds back just in the cool most calm, even though he's nervous as fuck. He said mine, he said it's my size. At that point I was like this is the coolest guy ever. I was like I want to be his best friend.
Speaker 6:I am supposed to say that you from where, that's just how you know, you from the hood, where that's almost like saying, if you, say one more time I'm gonna say hello, you've been down. You can't say well, I think I've been a blood for about three years now. Yeah, no, that's not the answer you're supposed to get. That's what you're supposed to say my size.
Speaker 1:All right, so but yeah, workouts and then quick healing process.
Speaker 5:Um yeah, the doctor said Six to six muscle year.
Speaker 6:I did it three.
Speaker 1:Hey, oh wait, you, you actually did do it in three, right.
Speaker 2:He was back at work at three months.
Speaker 1:Wow, at back at work in three months. Yeah, hey, what did they say? To work in?
Speaker 5:they were like Taylor started back work in november.
Speaker 1:A majority of people at your job white in brach's up, mm-hmm. Predominantly white profession. What were they when you came back to work, where they like Look, let's look at. I think it's important to say that I can talk about that too. My, my job, bro they were trying to send your ass home. Huh, no, I want to.
Speaker 2:I need to absolutely and I tell Taylor this to this day I'm always, forever gonna Like commemorate them. Those people were amazing. When I say those, people, I mean his job. They sent flowers, uh, when the day of his sweaters.
Speaker 1:We got a brand new car we got so much, and then his down payment I called his boss today that he had to have surgery y'all.
Speaker 2:when I told her what was going on, she cried Me and her on the phone together.
Speaker 6:It was like she was thinking about it.
Speaker 1:I'm not about to be number one, no more.
Speaker 2:It was. It was six o'clock in the morning and I was on the phone with his boss, well, his, so his boss also had her husband. Her husband had like a health scare before or whatever. So she kind of just knew. But we were on the phone, she, she was just like. I know what it feels like and I'm here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so that's why she was well and her.
Speaker 2:Her husband passed away, so she messaged me. She messaged me. She takes me every morning Just for updates. Talked about everything.
Speaker 6:She checked in after surgery. That's a beautiful thing, they came To his teammates came and showed up his boss.
Speaker 2:She came and she showed up and every day she takes me. She takes me every morning, just let's check on my mental, I mean yeah, I go back.
Speaker 6:I mean that see you got a good culture, you got a good dynamic. Yeah, I y'all then.
Speaker 1:Um, so None of them, please go ahead. I just wanted to kind of give a praise report, because I always bash white people, but respectfully. But this appraisal for white people.
Speaker 6:How do you say I bash white people? Respectfully, yeah.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, In an entertainment context and stuff, whatever, we beat y'all up a lot here.
Speaker 2:They showed up and showed up. That's mad.
Speaker 1:But yeah, what I'll say is that, like after the George Floyd stuff, whatever, I was not fucking with white people until my job, I remember. And they transformed and transcended my mind, because how much love they support and they provide support.
Speaker 6:It's not a monolith.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can't give an entire race based off of a small percentage of it.
Speaker 6:They're not how much they are.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know how we always get mad at the white people who were like oh, I got a black shirt.
Speaker 1:We have a right to get mad.
Speaker 4:by the way, you have your right to be mad, but it's all said, you can't shun it.
Speaker 2:That's just like we was like all black, the notion that all black people are thugs. We not.
Speaker 4:However white people that feel that way that.
Speaker 2:But white people that feel like that, you know they have a right to feel that way. And so it's saying with us. But with that being said, I want to go back to that. Y'all them, people like when I say they showed up and showed up and showed up for everything we needed. She like, she reached out, like they have a luncheon every year for just the company.
Speaker 2:It was a luncheon Taylor wasn't back at work yet, but it was a luncheon where they were recognizing, you know, their anniversary and this different things. She called me hey, we're having this luncheon. Still, obviously, it's going on and the big bosses are coming. They brought us, they invited us. She said I know he can't really, you know, I know you still probably helping him with his therapy and stuff. You can come like we're going to make space for you at this luncheon.
Speaker 1:So he can come now. I can't go nowhere. Exactly, they just showed up. You know they called me, I went and they sat at the table with the big bosses.
Speaker 2:They were asked like that.
Speaker 4:They said we got your bitch, and it was like.
Speaker 2:she was like we want him to be there. Support that and so she was like we understand that you are his support system right now, so would they make space for me? I don't work for these companies. I don't work for them. They didn't have to feed me that day and make sure I had somewhere to sit and all that. They didn't have to do that for me and they did just to accommodate.
Speaker 5:you know, it was good, it was great bro. I appreciate my company for showing love. But yeah, I didn't, I didn't want, really want them.
Speaker 4:I had to go. I didn't want them to see me like that because I had lost.
Speaker 5:I'm already a small guy, bro. I lost 30 pounds.
Speaker 1:How much did you weigh before the surgery? Do you remember?
Speaker 5:before surgery I was probably walking around at like 155. Yeah, 155.
Speaker 1:And then I was like so now, wow, I'm gonna say this and I ain't gonna say it. No, you're not that, no more.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna tell you this the last time. I ain't gonna say no more. He weighed in. They had weighed him one time.
Speaker 1:He was one 18, but I ain't gonna tell nobody else after I told these people, you just told the world I ain't gonna tell nobody else.
Speaker 2:I'm like, I'm like, I'm like I ain't gonna tell nobody else. Yeah, bro.
Speaker 1:I lost 30 pounds in there, but now where you at Right now I'm probably like 160. What's up? What's up on your pitch ass?
Speaker 5:Don't you step up? Yeah, so I got out of way back and got a lot more.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I'm more muscle now I've been, I work out Probably about three, four times a week.
Speaker 6:So what does it look like? Yeah, but having gone through this, like so yeah, that recovery video that you posted was beautiful man.
Speaker 5:Yeah, intense therapy. So yeah, I was in the hospital for two weeks and then the hospital has a rehabilitation.
Speaker 6:Okay as a contest to you.
Speaker 5:So I was in the actual ICU for two weeks and then they discharged me to the physical recap facility and I was there for two weeks.
Speaker 2:So in there it was most of those videos. I wonder if I live there too.
Speaker 5:The Instagram video I posted were from.
Speaker 1:Oh, from the overhead.
Speaker 5:So I was like walking the calls and standing up doing like squats and stuff you want to shout out that stuff right quick I don't remember anything?
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, no, not their names in the village, oh it was Zell Lipschy.
Speaker 4:It's a part of UT.
Speaker 5:Southwest and Mazzell Lipschy. That was a great place.
Speaker 6:Yeah, ut Southwest, and that's the political recap facility, For sure.
Speaker 5:That's a great. If you're in Dallas and you get sick, I would definitely recommend you go into UT Southwest.
Speaker 1:And they helped you meet your goal of three months huh.
Speaker 2:Zell Lipschy sped up the process. We thought three months. We were like, okay, cool by the time he went home. So they have this thing there. It's called a purple band and it was a purple band. Okay, so you know the wristbands you get for concerts and stuff.
Speaker 2:So you have a person that's in the room with you Like everybody. I didn't realize that I was one of the only people. Like, people have guests and visitors that come and go. I didn't realize how attached me and Taylor were until I realized I was probably like the only person on his floor that lived there that wasn't a patient and I'm like am I out of pocket? Like, but I'm like because I'm the only like it's nobody. Nobody.
Speaker 4:I didn't care.
Speaker 1:I ain't nobody ever to step up to me.
Speaker 4:I ain't nobody was saying nothing about it, but it's the same time.
Speaker 1:But it's like.
Speaker 2:I'm thinking, yeah, like, I'm, like, ain't, nobody is. So. Purple bands is for people who are in the hospital or even if they're just visiting. You have to get certified, so I, you have to go through classes. So Taylor was learning how to walk again. I had to learn how to support him properly in the event of a fall, all that other stuff in order to get purple bandied. So, before you get your purple band, if he needs to go to the restroom, he got to call a nurse and we got to wait for whoever.
Speaker 2:We got to wait for them to come. So when after that first time it was taken too long, I'm like you know what. And they got other patients because we weren't mad about it, yeah, but I was like hey. So when she came in, hey, what do I got to do to get a purple band, yeah, and she was like, well, you got to do this. And then they had like a little checklist.
Speaker 4:I went down to the checklist.
Speaker 2:I'm like bet I went through and I went to every one of his little therapy sessions. I didn't miss one and I got checked off by each one of the therapist. Yeah, and they was like, okay, cool, she can get a purple band. They put my purple band on. Couldn't nobody send me nothing? Nobody, I'm the nurse.
Speaker 6:Nobody told me my name on the whiteboard.
Speaker 2:Everybody. They told me they could, they were coming in. She was like he's not supposed to be out of bed. I said I got a purple band, Okay.
Speaker 5:But yeah, while I was there at the rehab center they were I was working out three times a day.
Speaker 2:Three times a day, wow.
Speaker 5:Working out there the other day I was. Yeah, it was serious in there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, I can be, doing the work and speech therapy came to the home.
Speaker 6:Speech therapist I mean you're doing all these every day, like you're doing speech therapy I'm doing physical therapy. We do all these different things Every day, every day. That's a lot, bro. I can be you, I can be you.
Speaker 5:It was definitely a lot. And then, like, my body's still healing, so I'm tired bro, yeah, yeah. I'm exhausted. But yeah, we was working hard. I was in there two weeks and then they discharged me. But when I got home we had a what they call it in-home therapy. So they would come to the house, not this particular, not a ZLLibs she, but like another kind of outpatient Outpatient.
Speaker 2:It was outpatient therapy.
Speaker 5:Outpatient therapy Pt, ot and speech same kind of.
Speaker 2:Thing.
Speaker 4:And that would come to the crib.
Speaker 5:I did that for three weeks, maybe Three weeks.
Speaker 2:And they choose, like it's at their discretion, as to when they can discharge you from their program. And do you remember his name, the?
Speaker 5:therapist Tony Tony Tony Hammer is named Because he was black.
Speaker 2:He was a black guy.
Speaker 5:And he's an outpatient, like yeah, he was black.
Speaker 2:He came to the house and him and Taylor they would have, it wasn't like regular. Like you know, flex your feet that he would.
Speaker 4:they were going to garage, they would work out together.
Speaker 5:They would go walk around a neighborhood. I was. Finally he let me run. I was finally able to run, and that should just if if a friend, yes, so before he ran before he got sick, he ran 5k.
Speaker 2:He did 5ks, which is a three, three mile run.
Speaker 1:I ran one with him, yeah, so yeah, I did it together, so he that was his thing.
Speaker 2:He like I'm in mind. You, I'm active a person, but I'm not a runner.
Speaker 6:I'm doing five K.
Speaker 2:I ran track when I was younger, but I was a sprinter. I'm not doing no five.
Speaker 6:K.
Speaker 2:I'm not doing no three mile. I'm not doing no male, I ain't got it, so he does it. That was his thing, he liked it, he got, he did. He's done several with his friends and he also signed up to do them with his job, so he's done multiple of them.
Speaker 6:So getting back to running.
Speaker 4:That was like his, that was just a God scene.
Speaker 6:And so when, whenever, when he can't do it, no more, I never could, I never could Taylor.
Speaker 1:what's your biggest takeaway from this experience that you want others to know about?
Speaker 6:It can be more than one thing too.
Speaker 1:Take your time.
Speaker 4:I'm trying to figure out how to word it.
Speaker 5:People, sometimes people can kind of get in their own head and in their own way. I would say, let people be there for you, like you know a lot of times. Well, I know for myself, I'll just do. You know, I know I got it, bro, I can do it. Sometimes people, that's how some, that's how people would show their love. It's like let them they want to do something for you. Just let them love you in that way. You know what I'm saying. But, ladies and gentlemen, hold on hold on hold on.
Speaker 1:I think it's. We got to take this moment to welcome back a fellow partner that is into the building. Courtney Coleman is here. Ladies and gentlemen, Courtney. Oh man, why the?
Speaker 3:fuck, did he go back.
Speaker 1:He knew what you were going to do.
Speaker 5:He went back to the oh. He knew what you were going to do yeah, okay All right?
Speaker 4:Well, we just wanted to give him a shout out and stuff, whatever.
Speaker 1:He was also in Dallas with us, whatever.
Speaker 5:Oh yeah, courtney, courtney.
Speaker 1:For the five support Shout out to my boy, Courtney.
Speaker 2:Courtney.
Speaker 5:But I will say also I know we hadn't talked about yet I tried to. So we talked about Baylor, and how fucked up.
Speaker 1:And how shitty they were yeah.
Speaker 5:I had an active lawsuit against them. Whoa yeah, Really yeah. The lawyer said because listen to this the lawyer said because they were, I went to the emergency room and they they have like a standard of care that they have to do.
Speaker 2:That is the legal term. It's a standard of care. They're so much legal tape.
Speaker 5:You have to prove like they were being malicious. They didn't meet them. They didn't meet. They met the standard of care, so I can't sue them because it's an emergency room. The emergency room is a lot harder to sue them.
Speaker 1:Because they asked you certain questions and then they admitted you.
Speaker 5:Thanks for your kind reason.
Speaker 2:Can't really prove that they messed up Because they didn't because, even though they didn't admit us and the thing is, and I'm going to tell you because he works, so we did the lawsuit together. So the original we talked to the first lawyer we talked to. He told us, he told me I'm always going to recommend because I know the every nook and cranny of your case and I've talked to y'all in depth and I know how what went on. I'm going to tell you that I feel like you should try with several other lawyers, but he has a partner. His partner was just kind of like we can't prove that they didn't meet the standard of care.
Speaker 2:So he was like but I want you to try with other people, because I want you to know how upset I am on your behalf, because this is really messed up.
Speaker 3:It's really fucked up.
Speaker 2:And so, and he said that blatantly, like this is fucked up.
Speaker 1:So the same practice when it comes to doctors and getting in second opinion is the same thing for lawyers, and so we went exactly so we went through, as though we went through that first one.
Speaker 2:We went through so many I cause. Taylor was back at work and I was like I'm going to do this, like I'm going to take charge on this. Why not, let me do it, let me work from home, let me rally, yeah. So I looked up lawyers all over the state, not just in Dallas. Like I looked up lawyers in Austin and Houston. I was calling everywhere.
Speaker 6:This is him.
Speaker 2:So I went through and I called everybody, anybody I could think of, I told them the story. I told the story about 15 times. I sent them over. The lawyer, the first lawyer we had, free of charge. He didn't charge me a dollar, he did not charge me one single penny and he gave us everything.
Speaker 2:He collected, all of the medical discovery all of the discovery, the medical information he had, did interviews, he had all of that. He gave it to me free of charge. He said I'm going to send it to you in a Google doc, a Google drive, and you can have it, and you can give it to whoever you need to. That way they can have everything, the all the information they need before they give you an opinion. And with the 15 lawyers, we reached out to every single one of them. They researched it and they all and people said they said we generally send this in an email, when I tell you, every single last one of them called and said we have to personally let you know that because we can't prove the minimum standard of care, we can't go through with it, because it's a whole thing, because that's going to be the argument every time.
Speaker 6:Yeah, and you can't take a case on it. You can't win it, we can't. Yeah, we're not going to do that. That's bad for everybody. Yeah, we're going to be out of money you be out of money, yeah, and so Because they get paid by the way they get paid, exactly At least they gave you all that foreword.
Speaker 2:And they, but they tell you, but they let everybody, everybody said that they were like we're and we're so sorry because we can, based off the information that was received, yeah, we could have.
Speaker 1:We could have a case that was yeah Because of that one.
Speaker 2:Because we can't, because because emergency room the because of the law.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 2:It's just a little bitty caveat.
Speaker 1:That dammit.
Speaker 2:Yeah that, that, that it's a fine line between the minimum standard of care and exceeding that to prove it. That's probably proven and that's what they said and they said because, basically because they checked his temperature and because they gave him a prescription for nausea, they did that, they did the minimum of care yeah. That was it. They checked his temperature and they gave him a prescription?
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 5:Did you have any more questions, so you're going to wrap it up.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what's your plans moving forward? How is that? Well, I have two questions what's your plan plans moving forward and how has your life changed? Besides that, besides- that?
Speaker 4:that's what I want to know, yeah.
Speaker 6:Because you've come out. I mean, we've heard this man, we've all felt it.
Speaker 1:Because people need to know, like, how do you move forward? Like if any relatives of our listeners or friends or any extension of that whatever that could be connected to them and they experienced this, at least they'll have like kind of like a little bit of a somewhat of a foundational piece to come back to. Yeah, I remember when this individual talked about it or whatever, and this is what impacted me and kind of prepped me and postured me to handle.
Speaker 6:Face the worst case scenario Right.
Speaker 1:And so, with you going through everything that you went through personally and also having a little bit of an indirect experience of how bad it could have been, moving forward. What do you plan on doing with your life now and making? It more fruitful and has your life, and how has your lifestyle changed?
Speaker 5:I can't drink as much just because of the medicine I have to the blood thinners I have to take to keep my blood thin to pass the mechanical valve. Yeah, yeah I can't drink as much, but if I so, only thing is the change, the big change is my diet Right. So I have a lot of things to do. I have to well, I have to maintain a consistent amount of vitamin K daily. Was that carrots?
Speaker 4:Vitamin K is pretty much anything.
Speaker 5:A lot of greens.
Speaker 4:So I have to.
Speaker 5:I have to if I'm going to eat. Let's say I'm going to eat a cup of spinach a day. I have to do that every day, or that same amount of kind of vitamin K a day because, it. Vitamin K is like a coagulant, so it makes your blood thicker than what it's supposed to be.
Speaker 2:So it's like the blood thinner.
Speaker 5:So it kind of counteracts my blood thinner yeah.
Speaker 2:So the blood thinner makes your blood thinner. The vitamin K will help it thicken up.
Speaker 6:It's a coagulated Just enough.
Speaker 5:So I have to maintain a certain balance of vitamin K a day.
Speaker 1:Is this something that you feel like is sustainable and something that?
Speaker 6:is not too much of a burden or anything I mean well, yes, of course, but like is it.
Speaker 3:Do you feel like it's a?
Speaker 1:burden, or have you accumulated to this or acclimated to this lifestyle?
Speaker 5:Because most of the time I just I make a smoothie every morning with spinach and blueberries.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 5:I was doing that before.
Speaker 1:Smoothies, really is that shit, yeah, I was doing that anyhow.
Speaker 5:So I love, I love smoothies.
Speaker 1:And they said that that is adequate for you to be able to do it through that, through and then that method.
Speaker 5:Vitamin K so the blueberries and the spinach in my smoothies.
Speaker 2:It's the perfect amount. And then to make it, I always and I was icing on the top for dinner, like that's why I got told you.
Speaker 6:You vitamin K too, cause you K, I'm K yeah, you got it.
Speaker 1:She presents it in the TikTok fashion. So the way that what makes it?
Speaker 2:easier or makes it another thing cause. When it comes to vitamin K, you know how people make recipes and they always like oh, you can add this or it's optional.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I always add broccoli. Whatever is optional, whatever the veggie is, I always alternate. I just swap it out for something that's vitamin K, so I always add broccoli into like a pasta dish or add spinach, so that's why you have to go and get your blueberries this morning.
Speaker 1:So some power greens.
Speaker 5:I didn't have a smoothie, but I had to eat I need to eat like so kale and spinach and blueberries are like the Kale spinach
Speaker 6:blueberries, kiwi, broccoli, Lettuce lettuce green beans romaine.
Speaker 1:I hear that people so make sure y'all get Charles Potassium and it looks like that a record button is about to go out, so let's go ahead and try to wrap up this episode, Taylor. Thank you so much, brother.
Speaker 6:For sharing this story, man that was wise. I feel every man All right.
Speaker 1:I want to take this time to pass us some mentos on behalf of the podcast podcast or whatever, it's just some so a little, a little bit of a Magnet magnet.
Speaker 5:Yeah, she was just saying we needed some more magnets, yeah.
Speaker 6:Oh, yeah, yeah, thank you for sharing your story Once again.
Speaker 1:Ladies and gentlemen, taylor Townsend, he has been on both sides, kale, face to face.
Speaker 4:I'm going to have to pass my only.
Speaker 6:It's my closing thought on having heard this and the kind of the removed experience that I had with you, having gone through it and feeling and praying for you from over here. Was man going through something like that, bro, looking something like that in the face? Like you have to have a greater appreciation for life and for who you have around you, because you have people hold you down and co-worker.
Speaker 2:They ain't got to do this. They didn't have to do it. They went out that way.
Speaker 6:Family friends, I mean y'all, y'all hear here, and then once it wasn't, as I mean knowing why, man, that's you know, that's that's you have to, I have a, I mean I have an appreciation, having heard your story, so I can only imagine what you have with it.
Speaker 1:So I appreciate you sharing that bro. All right, and with that said and I hate to abruptly end this, but the camera is literally blinking red. I've never seen it do that before, so I don't know how much time we have. So let's go ahead and wrap this up, ladies and gentlemen. Oh, and then wait, wait, wait, wait, and then let's do a quick toast. All right, I'm yeah, I'm like literally reacting, I'm in reaction mode.
Speaker 1:All right, taylor here's to you for your strength and for you sharing your story and having the courage to be able to share this like within a year of of it happening. I can only imagine how traumatic that experience was for you, but for you to fight through, to recover in such a short like literally half of the time, or shorter than half the time, like literally a fraction of the time. That just is an attestment and a and a display of your strength and your courage and your willpower.
Speaker 4:So who does to you and in a yeah and Ms.
Speaker 1:Kiana Townsend for you holding, holding it down for all black women and for all spouses, all wives, all strong mothers, whatever y'all.
Speaker 6:Y'all are the epitome and the core of the world and men cannot make it without y'all. So cheers to y'all that part All right.
Speaker 1:Now, finally, with that being said, let it, let's wrap up, shall we. Ladies and gentlemen, it has been a wonderful season. Eight yeah, man. It's been a while so powerful, and what a beautiful way to close out the season. Ladies and gentlemen, I want to give a special guest, a special shout out to our guests Kiana Taylor, uh, cedric Courtney she is Sam Bam Kako. And then shout out to all of our other guests that have made appearances on the show throughout the season. Y'all, y'all want to give y'alls handles right quick.
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